Mental health
How to Get Through the Bottleneck Period or Adjustment Period in a Relationship?
Managing the Transition from Romance to Companionship When a relationship moves from the passionate love stage to the adjustment period or bottleneck period, both parties may start to lose patience with each other’s flaws. As time spent together increases, so do conflicts and friction due to heightened dependence on each other, leading to frequent minor disagreements. How should this period be dealt with or resolved? First, let’s look at how the adjustment period and bottleneck period are defined. In his book “The Wisdom of Life,” Schopenhauer proposed the three basic elements that determine a person’s fate: What am I, what do I represent, and what do I possess? Based on this line of thinking, there are three fundamental questions that people need to answer in life: their relationship with the world, their relationship with others, and their relationship with themselves. Among these three questions, the relationship with oneself influences and dominates the relationship with the world and with others. When you enter into an intimate relationship with someone, this model needs to change. Your partner stands out from all other people, and “our relationship” becomes a new element in this model, with its position being equally important as “my relationship with myself.”
The Unfiltered Voices of Women: Understanding the Dynamics of Extramarital Affairs
Why Do Women Have Extramarital Affairs? Listen to Their Truth! Understanding the Reasons Behind Women’s Infidelity in Marriage Marriage is the union of love and intimacy. If a woman marries a man she loves and leads a happy life, she won’t want to betray him. When a woman has an affair, it’s often because she feels neglected by her husband, thinks he no longer loves her, or is disappointed in the marriage.
Most of the Time, We Like Someone Because of Our Own Flaws
The Pitfalls of Seeking Love to Fill Inner Emptiness In this world, only a very few relationships are based on the mutual attraction and growth of two independent and healthy individuals. Most people like someone because of their own troubles and flaws. For example, loneliness, deprivation, the need for rescue, or seeking parental figures. When unable to handle these issues, they seek someone to escape or fulfill themselves. And then, troubles continue to arise.
How to Overcome Relationship Doubt and Insecurity
Always Suspecting Boyfriend, Worried He Might Cheat Next Second, What to Do? Came across an interesting tweet: “Dreamt that my husband took a second wife, and the vinegar jar exploded in my dream. It was full of negative energy, which made me vent my anger at him all day!” I wonder what all the girls think after reading this tweet? This reminds me of a funny story: Tom wanted to hang a painting. He had nails but no hammer, and his neighbor had a hammer. So, he decided to borrow the hammer from his neighbor. Just then, he started to have doubts: What if the neighbor didn’t want to lend him the hammer?
Facing Emotional Betrayal, You Need to Find Inner Strength
When emotional betrayal occurs, a person’s inner self is actually weak and powerless. On one hand, the betrayal hurts the soul; on the other hand, it makes you feel hopeless about the future. So, no matter what the outcome of this emotional experience is, the first thing to resolve is the issue of inner energy. In other words, how can you inject energy into your inner self and make yourself strong enough to face all this?
Don’t Treat Emotions as the Only Path to Happiness After Betrayal
Once someone experiences betrayal in a relationship, they start to see things differently. Like how they face the person who hurt them, the meaning of marriage, and what emotions really are. From a certain perspective, the more you learn about these aspects, the more you reshape your inner self. This experience becomes more meaningful. When this meaning surpasses a certain level, the ultimate outcome of the marriage or relationship becomes less important. You’ve already gained what you needed, and that’s sufficient.
Overcoming the Resentment Trap: A Crucial Step in Restoring a Relationship
Falling into this Pitfall while Trying to Salvage the Relationship Will Definitely Make the Other Party Ignore You Completely During the process of salvaging a relationship, there is a pitfall that, once fallen into, will absolutely drive the other party away from you. It’s just a matter of time. This pitfall is often triggered by the other party’s slight “indifference” towards you, and ultimately leads to the disintegration of the relationship.
Stop Hurting Loved Ones with Violent Communication
How Nonviolent Communication Can Improve Your Relationships What is violent communication? Take this example: “You come home and just play on your phone. It’s like you don’t care about me at all. What’s the point of being in this relationship?!” This is a classic example of “violent communication.” It’s filled with comments, criticisms, accusations, and complaints. When faced with such complaints and accusations, how do most people react? Do they immediately put down their phone and try to have a calm conversation with you? No, their instinct is to put up their defenses. This usually leads to either an argument or a cold war.
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