Your Relationship with Your Mother Indicates Whether Your Marriage Will Be Happy
In family life, mothers and fathers play different roles. Mothers are gentle, while fathers are usually strict. It’s these differences that help shape our personalities.
The sensitivity and gentleness of a mother are qualities worth learning from. The courage and resilience of a father are essential on the path to maturity.
Therefore, the happiness of a family heavily relies on the combined efforts of both parents.
Often, your relationship with your mother also indicates the potential happiness of your marriage.
Not long ago, a friend shared a story with me in a letter. Here is what she wrote:
When I was young, my parents divorced. I didn’t understand the concept of separation, only that they didn’t live together. My mom would always come to see me, but my dad, maybe due to his resentment towards my mom, would always stand in the way when she wanted to visit me.
I often thought back then, wishing I could hold hands with both parents like other kids, going to the park together. But even such a small request became a luxury for me.
My dad was strict. Whenever I faced problems, he criticized me harshly. I grew up under his strict discipline.
I had a tomboyish personality. When faced with issues, I wouldn’t cry or fuss but solve them on my own. Perhaps I matured early due to lack of pampering. Over the years, I never felt my mother’s love, only recalling myself as a strong person.
Now that I’m grown up, I am quite hesitant about choosing a partner.
I fear marrying someone like my dad and having a child like myself. I don’t want my child to be like me. Honestly, sometimes I feel quite distressed.
Then I met my husband, a gentle and sensitive man. His tenderness captivated me. After marriage, I handle our relationship with care, fearing any conflicts. I realized my only flaw after marriage was struggling with intimacy.
Due to never experiencing intimacy with others from childhood to adulthood, even with my father, I always kept my distance and never dared to play around.
Truth be told, sometimes I yearn to rely on him. But perhaps due to my personality, I feel I can handle everything on my own. One day, while watching TV on the couch, he asked me, “Why do you always feel the need to be strong?”
After hearing his question, I felt wronged, tears uncontrollably streamed down.
Seeing me cry, he felt uneasy and hugged me. In that moment, my suppressed anguish finally burst out. Perhaps it’s because I’ve been strong for too long, I also needed someone’s affection.
Maybe due to limited contact with my mother in childhood, I don’t know how to be close to others. I’ve lived as my own hero in my mind.
When faced with tenderness again, I easily succumb to comfort from others.
Mothers indeed play a crucial role in a family. Now, all I want is to cherish my relationship with my husband. I hope to provide my child with a complete and happy family, unlike my upbringing.
After hearing her story, perhaps many can relate.
In real life, single-parent families are common. Family breakdowns deeply impact children. Lucky children heal from their childhood, while unlucky ones spend their lives healing from it. This should serve as a significant warning.
In reality, only a happy and harmonious family can nurture a child to grow up healthily and happily.
Marriage is full of ups and downs. Its breakdown hurts not only the couple but also the children. Therefore, when choosing a marriage partner, be more cautious and rational.
As Roland once said, “Love is pursuit, marriage is chase, divorce is questioning.”
During the early stages of love, emotions between two people heavily rely on each other. But ultimately, divorce often stems from life’s trivial matters. If you choose marriage, treat it well. Only then can the relationship between two people be harmonious.
A mother plays a crucial role in family life. Children who are close to their mothers tend to have better relationships with others.
Why are some people always guarded and have difficulty in social interactions? The answer is simple, their lack of a close relationship with their mother since childhood. A mother’s influence on a child lasts a lifetime. Your relationship with your mother will also indicate whether your married life will be happy.
