Your Marriage Happiness Is Actually Determined Before Marriage

We often say that you should find someone with good marriage values to marry, but what does it really mean to have good values?

Some people view marriage as a way to benefit themselves without giving back. They are like parasites in a marriage, only taking and not giving.

Living with such people is exhausting, both mentally and physically.

Marriage is something everyone should understand well. It’s based on emotions, which stem from liking each other. Many people get married without truly knowing each other’s values, especially about marriage and family.

If you want to understand your partner before marriage, observe their family. If you enjoy their family’s company, chances are your marriage will be happy. But if you feel uncomfortable or shocked by their family’s behavior, it’s a red flag.

Family upbringing profoundly influences a person, especially their views on marriage. If their parents had unhealthy marriage habits, they might replicate them in their own marriage.

Some marriage patterns are problematic, like using cold wars to resolve conflicts or being emotionally distant. Children in such families tend to carry these patterns into their own marriages.

Don’t hope for a miracle that your partner will change. Marriage values are deeply ingrained and unlikely to change.

If you end up with someone with different values, it’s because you didn’t pay attention, underestimated the impact of family values, or couldn’t see their true self.

Marriage isn’t just about happiness; it teaches us the essence of life.