Women Should Never Initiate Divorce, Divorcing Without a Principle is Very Hard for Women!

Love is the most extraordinary journey in life, holding hands is a very special memory. For some, holding hands leads to becoming lovers, partners, and lifelong family. For others, although they hold hands, become lovers, and partners, they ultimately do not become lifelong family.

Everyone’s understanding of marriage is different. If we ask what people gain or lose from marriage, we believe different people will have different answers.

Those who feel happy in marriage will feel that marriage provides a permanent safe haven for themselves and their loved ones, and that it continuously elevates their love. Those who feel unhappy in marriage may regret, saying that marriage is tiring and makes them lose their youth. And for those who divorce, it brings another kind of regret when looking back at the marriage!

Marriage requires perseverance, without the determination to persevere, marriage will not be too wonderful. Sometimes, a chance encounter can bring a lifetime of estrangement, such as divorce.

Because of divorce, the emotional connection between spouses is lost. Because of divorce, the once meaningful love is lost. Because of divorce, the hard-earned family is lost. With only a few decades in life, if marriage is lost, can you find something better? It can only be said that it’s very difficult.

So, after divorce, who suffers more, men or women? Emotionally, it should be women, as divorced women are always the weaker party. But rationally, men will be more hurt. Being hurt and feeling “suffering” are two different concepts!

“Suffering” is a long-term torment, day after day, year after year. Especially in the quiet of the night, for women, the loneliness after losing a marriage is very frightening and can even make women feel a loss of purpose in life! This will continue until finding new love. And men, although initially heartbroken, recover faster than women!

In terms of the motive for divorce, divorced women can be divided into two types: those who initiate divorce and those who are passive. Many people may think that women who initiate divorce won’t suffer, as they were the ones who initiated the divorce, and the suffering should be on the men who were abandoned. But in reality, women who initiate divorce are the ones who are most likely to feel the suffering!

As for women who are passive in divorce, they gradually tend to accept the idea of “fate’s arrangement.” Whether it’s good or bad, I’ve tried my best, although I got divorced, it’s not my fault. These women are more likely to “rise again,” regain confidence in marriage, and are more likely to find new love.

Let’s talk about why women who initiate divorce suffer more. In one sentence, it can be answered: women who initiate divorce have blocked their own way out and have given up the right to regret! Their divorce is a decision that only allows “success” and no regrets.

Fundamentally, women who dare to initiate divorce are very strong-willed people. If they can find new love after divorce, it’s fine, but if not, they will inevitably feel unconfident, and all their confidence will slowly be worn away. Sometimes they may regret, and sometimes they have to pretend to be strong.

A female reader once said: “I am very strong-willed and always argue with my husband about everything. Later, I felt that he was not worthy of me, so I divorced him. I thought that with my abilities, I could find a better man, but in the end, I had three relationships, all of which failed! To be honest, I regret it. Although I want to return to my original family, I can’t muster the courage to admit defeat to my ex-husband! In this delay, he has remarried. Perhaps, it’s my own fault.”

Although women who are passively divorced are not as suffering as those who initiate divorce, the feeling of being abandoned by a loved one will accompany them for a long time. Sometimes, even if they remarry, they may occasionally think of that sadness, leading to doubts and a lack of security in the new marriage. Some women who are passively divorced may even develop a fear of love, constantly feeling anxious.

Some people confess: “I was abandoned by him, for him, I have no right to complain, I only blame myself for still being unable to let him go. I have a hidden hatred in my heart, why didn’t you cherish me in the first place. I have a hidden desire for revenge, one day I will belittle you in front of my new husband and make you regret.”

As you can see, women who are passively divorced are prone to “revenge” due to “past feelings of sadness.” They easily forget the new happiness because of these feelings. This is also a kind of suffering, and many women abandoned by their husbands have these thoughts. If they can’t open up and untangle the knots in their hearts, perhaps this suffering will last for most of their lives.

Generally speaking, in the long run, women suffer the most after divorce. Women should cherish marriage more.

Some say that today’s marriages are even more brutal than before, and there are more reasons for divorce. There are more and more people who dare to propose divorce, and more and more people who casually abandon their families. Before divorce, they always think it will be good, but after divorce, they thoroughly understand that there is no love left! These divorced individuals, especially women who initiate divorce, even if they find a better partner, will certainly have a mixed memory in their hearts, and that is suffering.

We must believe that in marriage, sometimes missing a chance can turn someone into a stranger, or even an enemy. Essentially, marriage is a part of life, and since it’s life, there will inevitably be ups and downs. No matter what “flavor,” you have to taste it instead of avoiding it. Regardless, cherishing marriage is cherishing life. Being responsible for marriage is being responsible for oneself.

Everyone can make their marriage happier, but it also depends on how you view marriage. Those who choose to divorce when they could have continued will regret it in the future, especially women. Women should learn to protect themselves, safeguard their marriage, and not divorce at the drop of a hat.