Why It’s Said That Women Shouldn’t Be Too Kind to Men?

Emotional experts say:

“In a love that is not highly regarded, the only drawback is being too kind to each other.”

Sometimes, love shouldn’t be overflowing. Allocate half of your love for others and reserve half for yourself.

Although that’s the case, when someone truly falls in love with another person, they will endlessly lower their own bottom line for that person.

Sometimes, they may even turn against their own family for that person.

Anyone can’t withstand tests, so don’t casually test someone.

Human nature is like this, unable to withstand tests, nor withstand temptations. Naturally, if you are always very kind to the other person, they will take it for granted.

As a woman, you naturally should love the other person sincerely, but also maintain a balance in love, sometimes not being too kind to men.

Men sometimes bully the weak and fear the strong.

Back in high school, I had a teacher who was very good at teaching, but he neglected his wife.

One day, while the teacher was at school during break time, his wife called to say that their house was on fire.

However, the teacher remained calm, didn’t care about his wife, and continued teaching at school.

Many thought that the teacher was responsible, so he didn’t rush home to his wife.

But in the afternoon after school, the teacher said to a few students:

“What’s love? Why should I go save her?”

The teacher’s wife had always been good to him. The teacher was just a high school student, while his wife was a university professor. They had been in a relationship since high school, from school uniforms to wedding gowns.

The teacher’s wife was also outstanding, with many suitors around her, but she chose our teacher. Her parents were professors at the university, while the teacher’s parents were just farmers.

In this unequal love, the teacher was always very anxious, while his wife always compromised.

Sometimes, no matter how excellent a woman is, she shouldn’t be too kind to a man. Even if you are outstanding, a man won’t appreciate you if you keep accommodating him.

Men sometimes bully the weak and fear the strong, and many men end up hurting women’s feelings.

Women should know how to remind men.

Men sometimes make mistakes, and women must remind them. But if women remind men gently, the men may repeat their mistakes.

I remember when I was in my first relationship, my boyfriend was like that. Every time I told him what he should do, he would agree, but then he would make the same mistakes again.

I couldn’t take it anymore and thought about breaking up with him. At that time, a classmate said to me:

“You need to be firm in your actions. If he is late for three hours next time, don’t go out with him. No matter what excuses he gives, don’t listen to him.”

When my classmate said that, I initially thought it was too harsh. Interactions between people should involve kindly reminding each other, not being like that.

But my boyfriend remained stubborn, so I followed my classmate’s advice.

Surprisingly, it worked well. My boyfriend never came late again, and he started considering my opinions.

Sometimes, when a man makes a mistake, gentle reminders may not work. But if a woman gets angry, the man will realize the importance of the matter and won’t repeat the mistake.

Sometimes, women can’t understand men’s behaviors, but men are indeed like that.

Don’t let men take you for granted.

Some years ago, there was a song with lyrics that said:

“What you can’t get is always stirring, what you’re favored with, you take for granted.”

The lyricist of this song was male and naturally understood men’s minds.

Many men, when they can’t have a woman, follow her around like a puppy. But once they have her, they no longer care as much.

Women are usually kind-hearted, so when a man treats them well and they agree to be with him, the man may think he has obtained everything from the woman.

After being together, women shouldn’t let men take them for granted.

When someone feels taken for granted, they might stop being nice to you because they think you won’t leave no matter what they do.

Why do people work hard? It’s because they’re afraid of getting fired if they don’t. In love, men also have this habit. They treat a woman well because they fear she will leave if they don’t.

What you can’t get is the best.

Sometimes, what you can’t get is better. Smart women understand that when a man asks for something, they should think twice before giving it.

Many women, when they first start dating, don’t understand much and think their boyfriend needs something, so they give everything to him.

In a man’s eyes, what they easily get is never valued, but what they can’t get is worth pursuing for a lifetime.

So when a man asks a woman for something, if she doesn’t want to give it, she shouldn’t. Don’t think that by giving everything for the man’s sake, you’ll end up crying in the end.

When you’re too kind to someone, they’ll take it for granted.

When you’re too kind to someone, they’ll take it for granted and think it’s only natural.

Sometimes, if you give someone a piece of candy one day and another the next day, they’ll get upset if you don’t give them one the third day.

In many cases, in love, many couples habitually say a sentence: “You’ve changed, you’re not the same as before.”

Why do they say someone has changed? It’s because what they’re getting now is different from what they used to get. They might have been satisfied before, but not anymore.

People are like this. When someone is used to you being kind to them, and suddenly you’re not, they feel unsettled.

When you feel unsettled, you’ll think a lot. You’ll feel like the other person doesn’t love you anymore, that they don’t care about you as much. That’s when you start sulking.

People tend to compare past and present events.

So smart people understand that you shouldn’t always be too kind to someone. Sometimes, you should be nice, sometimes not. This way, even if there’s something you don’t want to do one day, you won’t do it for the other person. And they won’t hold it against you.

In love, someone is usually in a weaker position. Every woman wants a beautiful love story and hopes her man will cherish her.

But sometimes, when a woman is too kind to a man, he won’t cherish her. It’s often the women who are arrogant and assertive in front of men who receive a lot of love.

One should treat others with a sincere heart, but it’s also essential to love oneself at times.