Why Indifference Works Best When Loving a Man
The Importance of Maintaining Distance in Relationships
The best kind of love is not fiery like flames but steady like water, because water can flow long.
When many women fall in love with a man, they feel they should bravely pursue their love. They say women have zero IQ in love. When a woman treats a man with passion, indeed her IQ is zero.
But sometimes your passion doesn’t bring back the love from others. Maybe women blame men, thinking men are heartless.
But the best way to deeply love a man is to be cool towards him.
Men are creatures with strong conquest desires.
Men are creatures with strong conquest desires. As emotional experts have said:
“When a woman becomes more passionate towards a man, the man becomes colder towards the woman because he feels the woman no longer poses a challenge to him.”
Women are very emotional when loving a man, thinking that as long as there is emotion, they can love a man.
However, when a man loves a woman, besides loving her, there is also a hint of obsession mixed in, which can also be called fixation.
Once a man has a fixation on loving a woman, if this woman becomes cool towards him, the man wants to conquer her. So, the man becomes more and more concerned about the woman.
When someone falls in love with another person, they hope the other person loves them back. But if a woman deeply loves a man and is very passionate towards him while he is cold towards her, the woman is very sad.
Therefore, in relationships, women should also become a bit cool. Even if you deeply love this man, you can pretend to be cool.
There is a song that goes:
“Being favored, one is fearless.” When a woman becomes increasingly passionate towards a man, the man will feel that the woman cannot live without him, so he will act recklessly.
Therefore, being a bit cool in a relationship is the best.
Passionate love cannot withstand the test of time.
Passionate love cannot withstand the test of time. The intense flames may be fierce, but they can extinguish in an instant; while the gentle stream, though plain, can last forever.
The best kind of love is calm, and the way to be calm is to be cool.
A friend once told me:
“I am relatively cool with my boyfriend because this way we can discuss things calmly. I am cool with my current boyfriend because of the lessons my ex taught me. I loved my ex very passionately, told him everything, and ended up speaking without restraint, leading to many arguments and fading feelings.”
When a woman deeply loves someone, she always chooses to believe in that person, thinking she can give her all to him.
In fact, a woman must understand that she should reserve some love even for the one she deeply loves, not exposing her soul completely to the other person.
People always have many flaws in their personalities, and women are no exception. As the ancients often said, “Speak more, lose more.” People nowadays should also remember this.
When a woman excessively tells a man everything, she will reveal many of her flaws.
Once, a friend broke up, blaming her boyfriend for being irresponsible, leading to their breakup.
The reason for the breakup was that this friend told her boyfriend everything. Once, she told him about her father’s bad temper and how obedient she was to him. As a result, her boyfriend withdrew.
Sometimes, do not be too intimate with someone, think before you speak, do not idealize others too much because we are all human; do not think of yourself as too charming because there are always people better than you in this world.
So, when deeply loving a man, maintain some distance, being cool will create beauty.
Women should have the dignity they deserve.
“A woman’s dignity is more important than her dowry and beauty.”
Even if a woman deeply loves a man, she should control her emotions.
Controlling emotions does not mean ignoring the man, but sometimes being cool towards him.
Throughout history, men have pursued women more often than the reverse. So when a woman is very passionate towards a man, he becomes very proud.
At this time, the woman must understand that her passion will not reciprocate the man’s love. Instead, it may make him proud and think she lacks dignity.
When a woman deeply loves a man, sometimes she can try the strategy of “lure him to catch him.” This strategy is not only applicable in pursuing someone but also in romantic relationships.
My sister once told me:
“I used to be very good to your brother-in-law, so he became proud. But as I became cooler towards him, he started to realize my importance.”
In life, if a woman deeply loves a man, he can feel it.
Everyone has their weaknesses.
“Do not test human nature, it cannot withstand tests.”
So when a man knows that a woman deeply loves him, he might imagine her as lacking in dignity. If a woman can be cool towards a man, he will also be more considerate in his treatment of her.
I remember a professor once said:
“Loving someone is like holding a handful of sand. The tighter you hold it, the more will slip away.”
So sometimes, gently lift up a handful of sand with both hands so it doesn’t slip away.
When it comes to love, women should not be too passionate. Women should know that sometimes, even in deep love, being cool is necessary.
There is a saying:
“When water is full, it overflows; when the moon is full, it wanes.”
Everything should be done in moderation. When deeply loving someone, do not be overly passionate. Strike a balance, and that is the way to a healthy relationship.
The best way to deeply love a man is to be cool.
