Why I Stopped Replying to Your Messages (Very Realistic)

You sent a string of question marks, asking why I didn’t reply to your messages.

Initially, I didn’t want to answer you, but after some thought, I decided to let you understand my perspective since we’re friends.

I’m not unwilling to continue our friendship, but reality is that it’s impossible to continue. Maybe I have high expectations for friends, and the things you said didn’t interest me, while my words were often interrupted by you.

You always talk about how tough your marriage is, how tense it is between you and your mother-in-law, and how others have problems……

At first, I thought you were really struggling, following your parents’ wishes and breaking up with someone you loved, finding a suitable husband, and sacrificing a lot for your family……

However, looking back, I realized that what happened to you wasn’t as you described.

When you got married, although it was your parents’ idea, I didn’t see you resist much. It’s clear that you also blamed your ex for being unable to afford a house, and you felt relieved when you left him.

It’s clear that he loved you deeply and hoped you could give him three years. You two were still young, after all.

But you just sighed and left, showing that you didn’t trust him. You said you were fulfilling your parents’ wishes, but it seemed like you were relieved to be free from your past.

You didn’t have to compromise with your in-laws or struggle for material comfort. You easily got what others found difficult to obtain.

Although your family conditions weren’t bad, your husband’s family was even better, and your future life could be poetic and far-reaching.

However, your marriage wasn’t very happy. You should know that once you choose a life, you need to bid farewell to the past, but you started to complain in your marriage.

You said your husband wasn’t romantic, and your mother-in-law only cared about her son…… You could’ve had a thorough discussion about love before getting married, but you didn’t object to the proposal from both families, so everyone thought you were willing.

You could’ve given yourself more opportunities, but maybe you were afraid of not being decisive.

Your mother-in-law isn’t related to you by blood; she’s just your husband’s mother. How could she treat you as equally important as her son? If you put yourself in her shoes, could you treat her as an equally important person as your mother?

Marriage isn’t that simple; it’s not just about two people. Wanting a harmonious life isn’t just about getting a certificate; it’s not that easy.

It seems like you’ve changed since you got married. You’ve become someone who loves to complain, as if everyone owes you something.

Your husband doesn’t understand your thoughts, and when something happens, he won’t comfort you; your mother-in-law dislikes your laziness and can’t tolerate you; your parents think you visit them too often, and you think they dislike you……

Especially after you had kids, you said your mother-in-law disliked your daughter, so she let you do whatever you wanted, but when I saw her with your daughter, her eyes almost melted; that wasn’t fake.

Your husband doesn’t talk much, but whenever you give him instructions, he’s always obedient……

Maybe life is full of conflicts, and others can’t see them, but isn’t that just life? Can one person always get what they want?

You’re just too picky about life.

You send messages whenever you want, and if I don’t reply immediately, you send a string of questions. It’s as if everyone should be on standby for you 24/7.

The key is that the content you send can’t be answered, and at first glance, it seems like you’re just bored and looking for trouble.

Not everyone lives like you do. We have work, our own leisure time, and our own desire for solitude. But you divide other people’s time into blocks and lock them in.

Sometimes, I’m really scared of you, scared that my phone will ring, and it’ll be you. Sometimes I think, if marriage is so terrible, do I still want to get married?

Because of my thoughts, my boyfriend told me to stay away from your negative energy, which could affect me over time.

You know why I don’t want to reply to your messages? Because you’re always so negative.

When faced with problems, you don’t think of solving them but instead complain that others owe you, and you never take responsibility.

Maybe you’re not even aware that when you chat with others, you always bring up your family and kids. Maybe that’s really important to you, but what does it have to do with others?

I’ve listened to your complaints several times, but every conversation ultimately revolves around this topic. After a long time, I’ve gotten tired of it.

Maybe for you, it’s just about finding someone to vent to, not seeking advice.

But not everyone has the obligation to listen to your grievances.

Even the best of friends have mutual needs.

When I talk about my work frustrations, you seem impatient, thinking that my problems are nothing compared to what you’ve faced.

Maybe that’s true, but if I can’t get empathy from you and can only be a emotional trash can for you, then what’s the point of our friendship?

For me, friendship isn’t about tolerating each other’s bad moods, helping each other in need, or pulling each other up when we’re struggling……

But I also know that friendship is a two-way street, and mutual help is necessary for a long-lasting friendship.

You understand?

Why don’t I delete and block you? Actually, there’s no need for that.

For many people, each acquaintance has a corresponding reason, and it’s enough to have mutual needs in a certain area. Others don’t have an obligation to do things for you.

Have you noticed that after growing up, especially after getting married, the number of friends around you decreases?

It’s because our social circles change greatly, and the parts where friends can interact become fewer and farther between. As we drift apart, we slowly lose touch.

This is a normal part of life, and it’s not intentional.

Just like you and me, we live on different tracks, and the distance between our lives grows larger. It’s not because of material reasons but because we’re drifting apart spiritually.

We’re not on the same frequency, and it’s destined that we can’t empathize with each other.

That’s why I stopped replying to your messages. Do you think that’s the case?