Why Do Women Always Demand to Be “Treated Well” in Choosing a Partner?

Many people say that in a romantic relationship, a man should treat a woman well. But this idea of “treating her well” varies from person to person and depends on different perspectives and backgrounds.

From a man’s perspective: after I make a move, I need positive feedback to continue treating you well.

From a woman’s perspective: you have to treat me well first, and then I’ll decide whether to give you positive feedback.

This positive feedback often translates into what is considered “ordinary men taking advantage” by mainstream social norms.

For example, agreeing to be your girlfriend.

Or being willing to hug and kiss you.

Or being open to getting intimate with you.

This creates a difference in thinking.

Many single men and women have struggles like this.

Most times, it ends with the less attractive person making concessions.

Currently, it’s more common for men to take the initiative in “pursuing” relationships, so the mainstream assumes that men are at a disadvantage.

It appears that men are the ones making concessions most of the time.

However, men who can overpower women can break free from this tug-of-war.

Think about this.

How enthusiastic are young girls when they support their favorite idols?

How generous are they when they buy albums?

Some of them buy the same album four or five times, and some even buy digital albums, essentially spending money to see a digital number change, and it’s usually students who do this.

They live frugally but are very generous in this aspect.

Later on, they’re willing to spend tens of thousands or even hundreds of thousands on concert tickets.

Would you say those men treat them well?

No.

But the girls are still eager.

Why?

Because in the girls’ eyes, the value of those men has already overflowed to the point where they don’t need any further “good treatment” to make up for it.

So, when women discuss “you treat me well, and I’ll be with you,” it’s clearly aimed at a specific audience: those who are not very alluring, or have lower expectations, seeking short-term benefits.

When your internal appeal and strength are lacking, women will lean more towards you making up for it by “treating her well.”

When girls mock boys for being stingy with money, many boys aren’t necessarily lacking in this aspect.

Think about it, how much does a date and dinner cost? There’s no comparison to a cup of milk tea.

When some girls mock boys for being stingy, they’re actually trying to disgust you with the label of “miser.”

Boys are repulsed by the trend of consumerism and dislike being manipulated by poor marketing tactics.

Moreover, the entire conversation is about boys buying milk tea for girls.

Did the conversation ever mention girls buying milk tea for boys?

If this were suggested, it would be met with criticism from girls.

But if you think about it, whether it’s during school or at work, do your good-looking friends ever run out of snacks?

So, fundamentally, this is about your “altruistic value” being insufficient. Girls feel that you’re still lacking in this area and aren’t worth it.

If you’re not worth it, then you need to prove yourself with more external things and compensate her.

Don’t say she’s spending money on you; if you’re not treating her well enough, she’ll still feel like she’s at a loss.

One more thing, many girls are more than willing to pay for the hotel room when they go out with good-looking men.

Even if the man leaves after they sleep together, many girls are more than willing to call him a “great guy” behind his back.

Would you dare to think about this happening to ordinary men?

In essence, it’s like starting a business together.

The total capital requirement is 1 million.

The man believes he’ll contribute 500,000, and the woman will contribute 500,000, and that will be it.

But the woman doesn’t see it that way.

For men with average sexual appeal, it’s as if the man provides 1 million, but only gets 50% ownership, while the woman also technically invests 50% (supports you financially).

For men with poor sexual appeal, the man may have to contribute 2 million, with 1 million as start-up capital and the other 1 million equivalent to providing benefits to the woman, to convince her to go into business with him (a high bride price, surrendering his salary), and even this financial contribution might not guarantee success and has a chance of being deceived.

For men with strong sexual appeal, it doesn’t matter if the man contributes or not, the woman is willing to pay the full amount, and might even be willing to pay more to secretly give some of it to another man (a rich and handsome man), trying to keep him on her side in the long run.

So, fundamentally, the essence of human interaction can’t escape this business aspect.

Between men and women, it’s just that sexual appeal is turned into a commodity for profit.