Why Do Jerks Never Lack Women
First of all, jerks will do many things that ordinary men consider inappropriate.
Jerks add girls like choosing soldiers, the more the better. They add anyone with a decent appearance to their list of conquests, even using social media or frequent chatting to efficiently gather resources.
And what about ordinary men? As long as they add one girl, they only talk to that one girl. Adding one more is considered unethical, and chatting with multiple girls makes them feel like they’re not good men.
As a result, jerks and ordinary men don’t even compare in terms of the number of the opposite sex they interact with in the same period of time.
Let’s assume a success rate of 10%. If a jerk interacts with 10 girls in a month, he can find one to date. If an ordinary man interacts with thirty girls in a month, he could find three to date. But if an ordinary man only interacts with one girl a month, it would take him ten months to find a date.
This is essentially a problem of probability theory, and everyone understands this logic. So why can’t ordinary men do it?
That’s because ordinary men impose excessive psychological constraints on themselves.
Many men, including myself in the past, have had this feeling. Just chatting with multiple girls at the same time makes us feel fickle. This invisible feeling leads to a psychological constraint that we can only interact with one woman at a time for a certain period.
Until one day, I had a deep conversation with a female friend and found out that chatting with several guys at the same time is nothing out of the ordinary for women. As long as a girl is not too unattractive, she will have more than one guy approaching her. And yet, we ordinary men condemn ourselves morally for chatting with multiple girls, which is just strange, considering jerks never lack women.
But jerks don’t have this moral constraint. Not to mention chatting with several girls before dating, they can date several girls at the same time without any moral condemnation. How can we compare ourselves to jerks when it comes to mentality?
Because jerks outperform ordinary men in terms of female resources, they can be more unrestrained in their actions.
Ordinary men follow a standard procedure to escalate a relationship, getting to know each other for two weeks, meeting for dates for two weeks, and planning a confession after a month of knowing each other.
But jerks dare to flirt after just three days of chatting, hold a girl’s hand at the first meeting, and have the girl call them “babe” within a week. If they fail, no problem, they are simultaneously interacting with several girls. If one doesn’t work out, they switch to another. With the right approach, there will always be success.
For ordinary men, it’s a different story. If things don’t work out, they are down for the month, and it takes another month to recover their mental state. In two months, jerks have gone through several girlfriends, while ordinary men are still trying to find one.
It’s like playing the stock market. The big investors go all-in when things are good, and cut their losses if they’re not. Their capital efficiency is very high. On the other hand, small investors hold onto a stock for a year, even as it keeps dropping, and they may even buy more, leading to very low capital efficiency, even if they eventually break even or make a profit.
The input-output ratio between the two is like night and day. How can you compare yourself to a jerk?
If you could operate like a jerk, it would be strange if you were lacking women.
As I think about this, I realize one thing:
Jerks don’t lack women not because they are jerks, but because they have discovered a method that always ensures they won’t lack women, and that’s why they become jerks.
