Which is More Comfortable, First Marriage or Second Marriage?

I recently came across a video on a platform. It was about an old monk writing a pair of couplets. The couplet reads:

“Life often doesn’t go as planned, just seek half contentment in everything.”

This sentence highlights that life can be tough, so don’t strive for perfection in everything or expect to have it all. Being half content is already good enough.

However, most people don’t understand this. Some get divorced because they expect everything to go their way. They think their partner can’t do anything right. So, they argue, try to change their partner, but when they can’t, they end up divorcing.

In this world, everyone is constantly seeking comfort. They think they found the right person who listens to them and meets their standards, making them content.

Which is more comfortable, first marriage or second marriage? Here are the “secrets” shared by three second marriage couples.

Neither Comfortable

The first couple admits that neither of their marriages was comfortable. The man said:

He felt his previous partner wasn’t good enough and relied too much on her family’s wealth. He tried to change her, leading to daily arguments and eventually divorce.

He also mentioned not liking a woman who lacked ambition. Even if her family was wealthy, he felt she was lazy. He remarried but felt that his current wife, despite being hardworking, wasn’t as wealthy as his ex.

This shows that even though his ex wasn’t ambitious, her family’s wealth made up for it. His current wife, despite her efforts, couldn’t match his ex’s wealth. Therefore, he feels she’s not as good.

Don’t expect your next partner to be perfect. Everyone has flaws. Instead of magnifying flaws, focus on strengths to find happiness in the relationship.

Don’t rush into a divorce if your second marriage isn’t as good as the first. Instead, focus on how to improve the marriage and your mindset.

Second Marriage is More Comfortable

The second couple believes the second marriage is more comfortable. They got married young and were naive about their first marriage.

They realized their habits, personalities, and financial views clashed, leading to constant quarrels and ultimately divorce. After growing from their first marriage, they found a compatible partner for their second marriage, making them happy.

So, it’s essential to find a suitable partner before marriage, especially when young. Don’t play around with relationships; it may lead to divorce in the future.

Sometimes, marrying someone suitable is more important than marrying someone you love. Therefore, choose a compatible partner before marriage.

A celebrity once said, “I never stop children from falling in love. It’s beautiful. If my daughter falls in love early, I won’t intervene. Parents who prevent their children from love are wrong.”

Early love isn’t always good. If you marry early and later realize you’re incompatible, it may lead to divorce, hurting everyone involved.

First Marriage is More Comfortable

The third couple believes their first marriage was more comfortable. They had love in their first marriage, but in their second marriage, they realized their partner didn’t love them anymore.

Due to conflicts, they regretted separating from their first partners as they found their current partners unsuitable.

Why did they express this? They weren’t compatible in their second marriage. They settled for less due to being in a second marriage, leading to this situation.

When marrying, choose a suitable and caring partner wisely.

If unfortunate enough to separate and remarry, work hard to nurture the second marriage. Learn from the past failure and ensure success in the second marriage.