When They Want to Leave You, They Will Give Off These “Signals”

My girlfriend, Emily, and I were college sweethearts. We were each other’s first love, and our time together was truly happy and beautiful. We would study together, work part-time jobs together, and travel together. Those four years of college were a testament to our love.

Back then, we were convinced that we would get married after graduation. However, due to work issues, we ended up in different cities after graduation. Although we were apart, we still kept in touch every day. Maybe time had diluted our feelings for each other, because our communication gradually decreased.

In the sixth year of our relationship, she initiated a breakup. Honestly, I had already anticipated this outcome, but I didn’t want to believe that she would give up our six-year relationship for someone else.

In reality, when someone wants to leave you, there are always signs.

Verbal Abuse:

Getting together is not easy, so we should learn to cherish our relationships. The most feared thing in a marriage is verbal abuse, because once you say something, you’ve already hurt the other person.

Hu Shih once said, “Some words, once spoken, can’t be taken back.”

Now, thinking back, it’s indeed true. Even if the relationship is very intimate, there are still some things that can’t be said. Because not only will it make the relationship fade, but it will also affect the emotions of both parties.

I remember a friend telling me about her emotional story with her husband. She said:

When they had a huge fight, she told her husband, “You, a remarried person, are not worthy of me!” Her husband was furious, but suddenly became quiet and walked out the door, not saying a word.

From then on, their relationship became increasingly distant. She wanted to apologize, but every time they brought up the topic, her husband would shut her down.

Now, because of this incident, their relationship has become very awkward.

In reality, this incident tells us that there are some things that can’t be said in a marriage. Verbal abuse often hurts not only the hearts of two people but also destroys the harmony of a family.

So, in reality, what couples need more of is gentle, soft words, not verbal violence.

In reality, if verbal abuse appears in your relationship, it means that your emotions will face various crises. If you don’t know how to resolve it, your emotions will eventually disappear.

Material Reasons:

Gorky once said, “In the face of money, even a great-grandfather can become helpless.”

In reality, if two people always prioritize money, they will eventually drift apart due to benefits. The most important thing in a marriage is to have pure emotions. If two people always hurt each other for their own interests, then their love will not last long.

In reality, although money is important to us, only when you know how to face your emotions can your love become more beautiful. If you get together because of benefits, you will eventually drift apart because of benefits.

I hope everyone can cherish their love and not forget their original intentions. It’s not easy for two people to come together, so don’t let petty disputes ruin your relationship. Remember, cherishing is what we should do most, and don’t hurt each other for benefits, because some emotions, once lost, will never come back.

In reality, although emotions can’t be measured by material things, if a relationship is mixed with too many material things, it will become impure. Material things are not a reason for two people not to love each other; they are just excuses.

Only those who don’t love you will use various excuses to push you away.

The Appearance of a Third Party:

My husband, Michael, and I have been married for ten years. After getting married, our relationship was still pretty good, but since the appearance of a third person, our relationship has become lukewarm. At that time, for the sake of our child, I didn’t choose to divorce, but I felt it was unfair to me.

So, this year, I chose to divorce and end this unhappy love.

In reality, emotions can’t be forced. Whether two people truly love each other depends entirely on their attitude. If a third party appears in your relationship, it means that your attitude towards love is not loyal.

Love requires dedication. If you don’t know how to love, it will make the emotions between two people broken and fragmented. The appearance of a third party is often the key to breaking the emotions.

In reality, all emotional breakdowns have signs, so we don’t need to deceive ourselves. If two people can’t walk together, love will eventually disappear. Therefore, love needs to be cherished, and if it can’t work out, it’s better to cut losses and move on.