When Someone Has a Crush on You, They Might Use “Annoying” Ways to Get Your Attention
What does it feel like to have a crush on someone?
Many people have experienced this feeling. It’s like holding something precious, treating it with the utmost care. You want to show it off, but you’re scared of being discovered. You want to shout your love from the rooftops, but you have to keep it a secret. You become timid and shy in front of the person you like.
When we fall in love, our hearts become restless.
As Thurber and White said, “Love has a peculiar magic. It makes one person fall for another.”
This magic happens naturally. Even if you don’t try to show it, when you see the person you like, your entire focus shifts to them. You can’t even look away for a moment.
Even if you don’t notice, it’s obvious to others.
A crush is pretty obvious. It’s just not expressed directly with words, but your actions are already hinting at your feelings.
Of course, not all crushes are about admiration. Some people’s crushes can be strange and annoying on the surface. But in reality, these “annoying” actions are just ways to get your attention.
To make the person you like see you, get to know you, and develop feelings for you, you need to use some “tactics” to attract their attention.
Only when they notice you can things move forward in the direction you want.
So, when someone has a crush on you, they might use “annoying” ways to get your attention.
Deliberately “Bully” You
Some women encounter this situation in relationships with men. The man will often bully her, doing things that annoy her on purpose. Even if the woman clearly expresses her dislike, the man will just laugh and continue to bully her.
Maybe the woman is wondering why this man always likes to bully her and never bullies anyone else. She might even think she’s too annoying, which is why the man picked on her.
Actually, the woman is just being oblivious.
Imagine this: When we truly dislike someone, would we still bully them and spend time with them? Most likely not. We probably wouldn’t even want to talk to them. That’s how you act when you truly dislike someone.
The reason a man often bullies you is to get your attention. He wants to use this method to make you see him. Simply put, he has a crush on you, which is why he can’t help but get close to you and attract your attention.
Wang Xiaobo said, “I give you my whole soul, including its quirks, its tantrums, its flickering light, its 1,800 bad habits. It’s truly annoying, but it has only one good thing: it loves you.”
That’s how it is when you like someone. You let them see a side of you that you don’t usually show, and you act differently around them than you do with other people.
Love to Belittle You, Talk About Your Bad Sides
What happens when someone doesn’t know how to act on their crush? They naturally try to attract the person’s attention in any way they can. Some people will deliberately talk bad about you in front of you, pointing out your flaws.
These people are indeed annoying. After all, no one likes it when people constantly talk about their bad points.
But when it comes to relationships between men and women, think about it: A person who dislikes you wouldn’t bother observing you, let alone look at you twice. How could they know about your flaws?
Only someone who has a crush on you would observe you and care about everything about you.
These people seem to be belittling you, always talking about your flaws. But in reality, they have a crush on you, which is why they deliberately talk about your bad points to make themselves stand out.
Love to Snoop Into Your Privacy
Schiller said, “True love is exclusive, and the realm of love is very small. It’s so small that it can only accommodate two people. If you love several people at the same time, it’s not love, it’s just a game of emotions.”
When we fall in love, we focus all our attention on the other person. It feels like everything in life that has to do with them is the most important thing.
Because of love, the world becomes smaller and smaller, shrinking to just the two of you. There’s no one else in your eyes.
So, when we have a crush on someone, we naturally want to know everything about them. We want to know their hobbies, their life. The more things other people don’t know, the more we want to find out. That way, we feel closer to them.
It’s annoying to have people snoop into your privacy, but for them, it’s their way of showing their crush. They hope that by getting to know you, they can attract your attention in a more targeted way.
Boccaccio said, “True love can inspire a person, awakening the power and hidden talent within them.”
After falling in love, we do things we wouldn’t normally do. We try everything to attract their attention.
Some methods are very easy to find annoying, but this is a way of going against the grain.
Sometimes, when we directly pursue someone and express our admiration, it’s too ordinary and they might not even notice.
But those seemingly annoying ways are more likely to attract their attention and achieve their goals.
