When a Woman Comes Home, These Behaviors Often Mean She’s Seeing Someone Else
There’s an old saying, “Onlookers see more than players.” In this society, when one spouse is seeing someone else, it’s always the outsiders who know first, and the husband or wife is usually the last to find out.
These so-called “onlookers” don’t know how to warn the other party to protect themselves, or how to prevent them from getting hurt, so they usually choose to kindly keep it a secret.
In fact, whether it’s the husband or the wife, if they are seeing someone else, there will be some clues. If you observe carefully, you will definitely notice. Today, I mainly want to discuss the clues that the wife will show when she’s seeing someone else.
Mr. Smith recently got divorced and recalled some details that indicated his wife’s betrayal:
“I work in interior design and often need to visit construction sites. I’m rarely at home, so I leave all the household matters to her. Maybe it’s because I spend a lot of time with a group of male colleagues at the construction site, and I’m not good at taking care of her. I never sweet-talked her or took her out, let alone bought her gifts. I feel guilty about that.
One night two months ago, there was an urgent need to settle a payment for the construction materials, and I had just transferred some money to her in the morning, thinking it would cover the payment.”
She sets a password for her phone, carries it with her at all times, doesn’t allow you to look at it, or actively shows you a phone with empty message records.
“Her phone was placed on the coffee table in the living room, and when I picked it up, I found it was locked with a password. At that time, I didn’t think much of it, so I casually shouted towards the bathroom, ‘What’s the password for your phone?’ Unexpectedly, she immediately came out and snatched the phone from my hand, saying, ‘What do you need my phone for?’
I didn’t react and teased, ‘Is there a secret lover hidden in your phone?’ Her face turned ugly, and she walked away.
After that, I kept teasing her about having secrets in her phone. One time, she got so frustrated that she unlocked the phone to show me, but all the message records were empty.”
In modern society, the phone is an essential communication tool. If a woman is seeing someone else, the phone becomes an important tool for flirtation that she absolutely won’t let you touch. They usually set a password, constantly receive messages, keep their distance when on the phone, and have long conversations.
When you ask to see her phone, if she hasn’t deleted the records, she will refuse for various reasons. When she voluntarily shows you the phone, the message records have been cleared.
She goes out frequently, with noticeably more activities compared to before, and always dresses up carefully when going out.
“I didn’t suspect anything when I first checked her phone. What really made me start to suspect was when she began wearing makeup, using perfume, and going out often for various reasons. Sometimes she would even go to the supermarket at night and come back after a long time, or spend the whole day shopping with her girlfriends on weekends, coming back with lots of bags of cosmetics and skincare products.
She used to rarely go out. She found it boring to go out more often and mostly chose to stay at home to help our child with homework and take care of the flowers.”
If a woman who doesn’t usually enjoy social activities starts going out frequently, men should be cautious. She needs to find excuses to give herself plenty of time for her affair.
After seeing someone else, women pay great attention to their appearance. When they go out, they dress up beautifully, change their clothing style, and may even start using perfume. Their shopping expenses also increase compared to usual.
The number of arguments increases.
“After that, I noticed that we were arguing more and more. She started saying that I didn’t care about her or the family. When she was sick, I wasn’t by her side to take care of her, and I never knew about her work problems. I knew I had let her down, so I always tried to appease her, comply with her requests, and fulfill whatever she wanted.
Once, she said she wanted to go on a trip with her friends, and I agreed. She was gone for half a month, and later I found out she had gone on a trip with that man.”
There’s suddenly more family conflict, and the frequency of arguments increases. The wife, who used to be understanding, now gets angry at the drop of a hat. She always picks on your various flaws and can’t stand various things you do.
In fact, she is comparing you with the man she’s seeing. At this time, she’s like a teenage girl in the “honeymoon period.” In her eyes, you can’t compare to the man she’s seeing.
Marriage is like a walled city. Some people long for the life inside the walls and want to enter, while others like the scenery outside the walls and want to leave. In the end, every passionate relationship will return to normalcy. Most marriages without a true understanding of the essence of marriage or without a genuine foundation of love will end in failure.
Being together is not easy. We should cherish each other, and if there really is no love left, let’s part on good terms.
