When a Woman “Scolds” You with These Three Phrases, Don’t Get Mad, Her Subtext is “Conquer Me”
Women are usually more reserved in life, which means they might be hesitant to express themselves in relationships.
If a guy likes a girl, he’ll usually go after her openly. Unless he’s a total newbie at love, but even then, guys are pretty bold these days.
But if a girl likes a guy, she might try to get him to pursue her first. Sometimes she really likes him, but she wants him to conquer her.
Relationship experts say:
“Women always want men to conquer them, but they’re not good at saying it.”
It’s not that women aren’t good at expressing themselves, but their words are often veiled and subtle. Most guys don’t catch on.
If you’re trying to win over a woman, try to understand her. If she says these three things to you, don’t get angry. Her subtext is: “Conquer me.”
“Ugh, You’re So Annoying”
Remember those old Jin Yong TV shows? There’s this one scene where a woman is at home, waiting for her man to come back. He’s off fighting in a war, so they’re apart a lot.
When he finally returns, he asks her if she really loves him.
And she says:
“Ugh, you’re so annoying.”
He looks at her face and thinks she must really hate him. But maybe he’s been in the army for too long, got a bit rough around the edges, and sometimes gets angry.
Actually, when a woman says these two words, it might sound like she’s scolding you, but she actually cares about you. That’s why she says it.
There’s a hint of playful teasing in that “annoying.” If you can step up and show your manly side, you’ll conquer her. Because she’s waiting for you to do just that.
This is true in real life too. If you’re with someone and you want to pursue them, and you’re bickering playfully, and they say those two words, it means you’re already flirting. Seize the moment, ask them out, and you can finally be together.
If you’re already together and she keeps saying it, don’t get mad. You’re not that annoying. She just says it out of habit. And the reason she says it out of habit is because she loves you.
Only a woman who cares about you will say those two words. On the surface, it seems like she hates you, but she actually really likes you. She’s saying the opposite of what she means. You gotta know her tricks.
“You Deadbeat”
When I was a kid, I used to see the old lady next door say to her husband:
“You deadbeat, why don’t you just die already?”
I didn’t get it back then. I thought she was really scolding him, so I’d run home and tell my grandma. And she’d say:
“Oh, I envy them so much!”
I didn’t understand why she envied them. I thought they were miserable.
But after I started dating, I realized that sometimes when you want someone to conquer you, when you want someone to be with you, you say this. You say it to close the distance between you.
I remember when I was in college, just starting to get the hang of this love thing. I had a crush on this guy. He wasn’t really into me, so I’d text him:
“You deadbeat.”
Those four words meant a thousand things. They held all my hopes for him, hoping he’d turn around and pursue me, hoping he’d accept my feelings.
When I said it, I was actually a mix of love and hate, a little worried, but still holding onto a sliver of hope.
But maybe we were all just clueless back in college, because he got really mad. He thought I was scolding him. But if I didn’t like him, I wouldn’t have said it. When I said it, I was conflicted, kind of nervous.
So when a woman says those four words to you, it means she wants you to conquer her. It means she cares about you. If you like her too, go with the flow. Maybe you’ll have a great story together, maybe you’ll grow old together, maybe you’ll become a love story for the ages.
“Go Ahead, Find a Girlfriend”
In a lot of romantic dramas, when a woman likes a guy, she’ll always say:
“Go ahead, find a girlfriend.”
There are a lot of people like that in real life too. I have a friend who was like that. She had a crush on this guy who was also her friend. So when they were hanging out, she’d always say to him:
“Go ahead, find a girlfriend.”
He eventually figured out what she was thinking, so he made a move and pursued her. They got married a few years later.
So sometimes, if someone you know keeps saying this to you, it means they want you to pursue them. If you like them too, you gotta pick up on that signal, understand what they’re thinking, and go for it.
Some guys are oblivious. They hear this and think she’s making fun of them, so they try to make fun of her back. But if you do that, you’ll hurt her. Because when she says that, it means she’s already fallen for you, and she’s hoping you’ll make the first move.
If a woman scolds a guy with these three phrases, some guys might not get it. Those guys are kind of clueless, they don’t understand what’s really going on in her head, and they might even scold her back.
But some guys have more experience with love. They’re also pretty sharp. So when a woman says these things, they understand what’s on her mind, and they go for it.
