“What Makes a Mistress Better Than a Wife?” Married Men Tell the Truth
Three Miao said, “If love doesn’t fall into the practical aspects of life, such as wearing clothes, eating, sleeping, and counting money, it won’t last long.”
Maybe someone will say that these things in life are just small matters. Love can overcome everything, so what’s the big deal about these insignificant things? As long as two people love each other, these things won’t matter.
In reality, talking about love without considering life is unrealistic. Otherwise, there wouldn’t be so many people who were once in love but ended up breaking up, and there wouldn’t be those who betrayed their marriages.
When a man develops feelings for another woman outside of his marriage, we wonder, why does he want to ruin the peace and hurt himself and others?
What makes a mistress better than a wife? Let these married men tell you the answer.
Mr. Qin, Married for 10 Years
If I didn’t take a closer look, I wouldn’t even realize I’ve been married for 10 whole years.
I don’t know when it started, but my wife and I rarely have anything meaningful to talk about. I remember when we first got married, we would chat all night, feeling like life was full of excitement.
But now, when I see my wife, I don’t have the desire to chat anymore. I feel like we’re just talking about daily life, like groceries and household chores.
I know it’s not right to have feelings outside of marriage, but at that time, I couldn’t control my emotions.
When I talk to her, I feel like time is flying, like I’m back in my college days, chatting with someone I like, trying new things together.
I feel guilty when I face my wife, but this difference makes me unable to control my emotions.
Mr. Zhao, Married for 5 Years
Shakespeare said, “Women love with their ears, while men love with their eyes.”
As a man, I don’t want to admit it, but sometimes I’m indeed that shallow.
I remember when we were dating, every time I saw my wife, she looked beautiful, and I thought about marrying her as soon as possible.
But after we got married, I realized that marriage isn’t romance, and all the good and bad things started to show up. Over time, my wife’s appearance changed, and she started to dress casually.
When I compare my wife to my mistress, it’s like heaven and earth. My mistress always looks beautiful, dressing up every day. My wife always says she doesn’t have time to dress up.
Although I know this “new is better” mentality is bad, which man doesn’t like beautiful things?
Mr. Jin, Married for 15 Years
Being married for over 10 years feels like having a familiar left hand, with no emotional ups and downs. But when I’m with my mistress, I still get a racing heart.
When I’m with my wife, every day is the same, with no changes in our conversations, just talking about household stuff.
My mistress takes me to places young people like, doing things that make me feel young again, like I’m one of them. Even when we chat, she’s unpredictable, making me want to guess what she’ll say next.
Sometimes when I’m exhausted from work, my wife doesn’t understand me, saying that everyone has stress and pressure. But my mistress quietly accompanies me, without complaints or blame, making me feel comfortable and at ease.
What makes a mistress better than a wife?
The answer from these married men is clear: the wife is in daily life, while the mistress is in romance.
As marriage goes on, the couple becomes too familiar, losing the freshness and passion, and even love is neglected.
But the mistress is still in the initial stage of romance, and the man hasn’t fully understood her, still in the stage of exploration, which naturally makes the man’s heart beat faster, full of passion.
What men don’t realize is that the mistress wins over the wife simply because of time. Even if they give up their wife to be with their mistress, they’ll eventually get tired and regret it.
In Zhang Ailing’s novel “The Red Rose and the White Rose,” there’s a metaphor: “Perhaps every man has two women, at least two. Marrying the red rose, it becomes a faint bloodstain on the wall; marrying the white rose, it becomes a grain of rice stuck to one’s clothes.”
What we can’t get is always the best. Once we get it, whether it’s the red rose or the white rose, it’ll eventually become a faint bloodstain or a grain of rice stuck to our clothes.
The best way to love is to stick to one faith, without distractions. No matter if it’s the white rose or the red rose, no matter if it’s a faint bloodstain or a grain of rice, remember that what we have is the best.
