Understanding Troublesome Women, Winning Men’s Hearts
“Love is a woman’s lifelong story, but just a fleeting episode in a man’s life.”
There are many devoted women in the world, but also many unfaithful men.
In relationships, women often find themselves in a vulnerable position because they are more emotional, while men tend to just scratch the surface of emotions.
Some women throw themselves into love, giving everything, only to end up empty-handed.
Recently, while chatting with friends, we discussed love. I asked:
“Why do some women treat men well, yet the men still abandon them?”
My friend replied:
“Ignoring the relationship and holding onto love is not about a woman being good to a man, but rather the ability of this couple to grasp each other.”
Sometimes, being overly nice to someone may not end well; love also requires some skills.
There’s a saying online:
“Deep affection has never held on, only tactics can win hearts.”
Using some tactics can truly capture someone’s heart. When women are being good to men, they should also learn to be a bit troublesome.
It’s all about balance.
Spoiled Kids Get Treats
Spoiled kids get treats, too docile women aren’t loved.
My aunt has two daughters, both girls. However, she is more upset with one of them.
The daughter she favors more tends to be a bit of a crybaby and sometimes throws tantrums when unhappy.
At first, my aunt was troubled by this behavior, thinking the child was immature. But as time passed, she spent more time with her and grew to love her.
Later, when both girls grew up, my aunt said:
“The quieter daughter, after she left, the house became much quieter, and I’m not used to it. I actually miss her now.”
Being too submissive may not always be a good thing. Sometimes causing a little trouble can have a different effect.
When kids act up, adults pay more attention. Similarly, if a woman causes a scene in front of a man, it might make him feel more concerned.
Of course, this kind of behavior should be appropriate and not exaggerated.
Not Too Dramatic, Not Too Submissive
Women shouldn’t be too dramatic but also not too submissive.
“Too much of anything is not good.”
Being too submissive or too dramatic is not ideal.
For example, after being together for two to three years, if a woman always agrees with everything the man says, he might initially see her as understanding. But as time goes on, he might find the relationship as bland as drinking plain water.
In love, women seek security, while men crave novelty. If a woman remains submissive all the time, the man might lose interest.
So, women should know that sometimes when a man suggests something you don’t want to do, you should speak up.
Have boundaries and your own opinions; this will earn a man’s respect.
No one likes someone without a backbone, and no man likes a woman without her own opinions.
Causing Trouble to Men Can Be a Reminder
Causing trouble to men sometimes serves as a reminder. As relationship experts say:
“Men often realize things too late in love, so when a woman is heartbroken, the man finally realizes.”
Women’s intuition is strong, but men lack it. Therefore, when something bothers a woman, the man might not notice.
If a man does something that upsets a woman, she should give him a hard time to make him pay attention.
A man needs a wife who can remind him. A man can uplift a woman, but an exceptional woman can also uplift a man.
Often, misunderstandings between men and women require mutual reminders to be resolved.
Initially, a man might resist a woman’s reminders, feeling that she’s just causing trouble. But when he reflects, he realizes her point.
Women should know how to remind men, not silently endure everything.
Men Are Like Children, They Need Guidance
Men have a childish side that you might not notice if you’re not close to them.
So, sometimes men need guidance because they have a childish side.
A friend once told me:
“If you’re late for a date with your boyfriend, don’t just tolerate it. Don’t turn back if he arrives late; even if he’s half an hour late, don’t go out with him. Once you set this boundary, he won’t do it again.”
Initially, I disagreed with my friend, thinking relationships should be peaceful. But later, I realized that men sometimes need guidance.
Sometimes, sweet words won’t work with men. Only when you do something serious will they consider changing.
You may think you’re causing trouble, but if you don’t, men won’t change. Women should know how to guide men, improving them slightly and making them care more.
In love, when it’s time to cause trouble for men, do it. Holding back will not only weaken your position but also lead to a crisis if all the grievances build up and explode suddenly.
Many women suddenly explode because they keep everything inside, which is dangerous behavior.
