To be honest, most couples settle for each other
A fulfilling marriage only exists when both the husband and wife turn a blind eye and a deaf ear to each other.
As Franklin said, “Before marriage, keep your eyes wide open; after marriage, half shut.”
Life is never perfect. We all seek partial contentment. Love and marriage have their beautiful sides, but they are not flawless. Just like precious gems, human emotions also have their flaws.
Perhaps you always see other marriages as perfect, with harmonious couples, while only feeling dissatisfied with your own family.
At such times, you may think you chose the wrong person. But have you ever reflected on what you have contributed to this marriage?
To be honest, most couples settle for each other.
But isn’t settling just a waste of time? Is it about merely getting by in life?
In reality, settling means acknowledging each other’s shortcomings while not giving up on the relationship, maintaining the initial intention, and consistently nurturing the marriage.
Only those who have been in love won’t expect their partner to be a perfect god or goddess. Only those who have been married know that even with a strong emotional bond, everyday life can be challenging.
Life is tough. Don’t hurt others with your selfishness or end up losing more by setting unrealistically high standards.
There’s always a gap between fantasy and reality. We might not be lucky enough to become someone’s fantasy, or unfortunate enough to never find that ideal person.
In this world, perfection doesn’t exist. There’s only relatively better.
Imperfection is universal
Some women always belittle their husbands after marriage, thinking others have better spouses. Some men criticize their wives, believing other women are more virtuous and attractive.
Thoreau said, “On the road to success, a husband always receives encouragement and support from his wife.”
Behind every successful man, there’s usually a wife silently supporting him.
Take the renowned director Ang Lee, for example. People see his successful side but don’t know that long ago, he was an insignificant figure.
Initially, Lee directed many TV shows that failed. People doubted him, even close friends started ignoring him. However, his wife stood by him, saying, “I will support you financially and emotionally.”
Some people seek partners who provide financial security, not those who constantly rely on them to solve problems. Such individuals are seen as immature, unable to grow or plan for the future.
While some may choose to leave such partners, others settle and spend their lives with them.
Many are unlucky, never achieving fame, often misunderstood for lacking ambition or talent, leading their marriages to the brink of collapse.
Yet, some silently support from the shadows, understanding that marriage requires compromise and not finding an idealized partner. Life demands perseverance; never hastily judge or hurt those closest to you.
Sometimes you may feel you can’t bear your partner anymore, that you can’t go on, and you’re a person of substance who deserves better. But accepting someone’s virtues while rejecting their flaws is often a selfish act.
Those who treat you well are precious
I recently watched a live stream by a host who shared insightful stories.
Most tales revolved around deceit in relationships, where one person betrays another, only to later find a seemingly better partner, marrying up.
The host mentioned how some people, despite receiving love and care from their partners, leave them for someone they perceive as superior. Many viewers asked, “How can I become like them?”
The truth is, those who treat you well are often the most precious. If you feel your partner isn’t as good as others, and you’re easily tempted away, thinking being with them is a waste of time, then seeking someone else is often a mistake.
In another relationship, you may find it hard to settle because the other person might not treat you well.
People often feel wronged, disliking compromise. Remember, life isn’t always fair. How can you be sure others aren’t also settling?
When someone treats you well, cherish them. Give your best to them, be grateful, and you’ll receive warmth from the world.
Settle when your partner has a bad temper
No couple goes through life without arguments. Remember, disagreements are part of a healthy relationship. Resolving issues calmly is key to a lasting, loving bond.
Psychologist Maslow said, “People are smart, but they can also be temperamental, that’s what makes us unique.”
Smart individuals know how to compromise when dealing with their partner’s bad temper. If the situation isn’t extreme, like physical violence, sit down and talk things out calmly.
As the saying goes, harmony brings prosperity.
Your relationship with your partner determines the atmosphere at home. We seek companionship to avoid loneliness in this challenging world. Your partner also faces difficulties, so mutual understanding is crucial.
Kind souls defend their marriage but also treat others well.
