Tinkering is a Sign of a Man’s Deep Love for You
On a reality TV show about relationships, a host once said,
When a woman becomes stronger in love,
her partner may feel disheartened,
as she becomes more independent,
but when a man grows stronger in love,
it’s because he deeply cares for you,
and wants to give you the best.
People are greedy, selfish, and lazy by nature,
but when faced with important matters or people,
they change. No one likes to tinker,
or leave their comfort zone,
everyone prefers an easy life.
But when you meet someone important,
you choose to go the extra mile for a better future.
Wanting both of you to improve and have a cozy home,
tinkering tirelessly because of distant dreams,
when someone goes out of their way for you, they truly love you,
they prioritize you above all else,
traveling the world for you,
doing things they never thought they could.
There are three signals a man deeply loves you.
Treating Your Affairs as His Own
A senior student had a boyfriend,
when she was preparing for exams,
he took days off work to help her register,
researching to avoid mistakes,
even getting reprimanded for it later.
Initially, she thought he was foolish,
that it was unnecessary to go to such lengths,
believing she could handle it alone,
but they broke up, and she realized,
in hindsight, that when someone truly cares for you,
they sacrifice everything for you, going the extra mile.
Because everyone prioritizes certain people and things,
if he deems it important,
even if there are no mistakes, he worries,
fearing a misstep might ruin things,
you’re his top priority,
so your affairs become his priority.
If having a boyfriend feels the same as being single,
with no added value,
facing challenges alone,
walking your path solo.
Some people by your side make you stronger,
while others avoid troubles,
leaving you to face life alone,
unwilling to make an effort for you.
If someone thinks you’re incapable,
yet runs around for your smallest needs,
that’s love, like pampering a child,
even as adults, some remain kids in their parents’ eyes.
Last year, a news story deeply moved me.
A 92-year-old parent giving red envelopes to their 71-year-old child,
tearfully reminding them to stay safe,
when the child left, tears flowed,
the parent said, “You’re always running around, be safe.”
Reading this, I chuckled,
but tears welled up, too.
In our parents’ eyes, we’re forever kids,
finding someone who fusses over you like a child,
losing sleep over your smallest concerns, that’s true love.
Managing Mother-in-law Relationships
Dealing with in-law relationships is tricky,
unlike the West, we value family togetherness,
even if not living together,
gather for festivals,
frequent contact leads to conflicts,
doing more together naturally breeds disagreements.
Some things can’t be understood by others,
family issues lead to endless quarrels,
even divorces,
women living with mothers-in-law often seek divorce.
Research shows couples living with in-laws have a 3% higher divorce rate.
Men, don’t dismiss your wife as unreasonable,
or your mother as stubborn,
play the mediator role well,
bridging the gap between them,
smart ones praise their wives in front of their mothers,
making both happy.
Realizing the mother-in-law cares for them too.
Some buy gifts for their mothers,
saying it’s from their wives,
though troublesome, it’s necessary,
to manage mother-in-law relationships well.
In today’s stressful life,
raising a child adds pressure,
poor in-law relations mean no help with the child,
both work, raising kids alone intensifies stress.
In-law relations are crucial, affecting the entire family.
Striving Harder for Your Future Together
In a novel “The Wife’s Secret,”
the husband buys a small ring for his wife,
though others had bigger rings,
he promised a larger one in the future.
He worked hard, from a junior doctor to a specialist,
bought a house, remarried.
Love is a force,
pushing one to improve for the other,
doing many things, despite the hurdles,
all for each other and their future home.
Before finding a partner, many seek wealth and looks,
but when they meet someone who truly loves them,
even with nothing, they choose them,
because they go the extra mile for you.
