Three Reasons You’re Still Single

Many single women, after being alone for a long time, gradually get used to the solitude and start thinking that being alone is not bad at all—free and carefree. However, when it’s quiet at night, they know that these are just excuses to comfort themselves. We’ve identified three types of single women. Which one are you?

1. I’m waiting for fate to happen.

Some girls are passive. Whether they meet someone they like or someone who likes them, if they don’t end up together, they console themselves by saying, “My time hasn’t come yet. I haven’t met my other half.” This is indeed a good reason to comfort oneself. Love requires effort from both sides—whether it’s making an effort to attract or pursue, you need to make an effort to bear fruit with your significant other.

Tip: This type of girl is often lacking in confidence. You can do things you’ve always been afraid to do to boost your confidence. On the other hand, every relationship experiences setbacks. When you face setbacks, be more proactive. Only through effort will there be rewards!

2. Assertive warrior woman.

These girls are assertive and capable. They are used to solving any difficulties by themselves and don’t like relying on others. In reality, they are as fragile as a child inside. The more fragile they are inside, the stronger they appear on the outside. They appear strong enough to withstand anything and don’t need to rely on a man. However, deep down, they crave love and care from others. You’re not a warrior by nature, so why compete with yourself?

Tip: Drop your guard and sincerely treat every friend around you. You don’t need to hide your vulnerability from others. Cry when you want to cry and laugh when you want to laugh. Let people see the real you and allow them to enter your heart.

3. I love independence and freedom.

Their lives are fulfilling—work, exercise, travel, visiting exhibitions, attending concerts, going to the library… every day is filled. However, once they’re busy, loneliness and solitude start to creep back in. They don’t have a boyfriend and usually say they’re very busy and have no time for a relationship. In reality, it’s just a form of avoidance.

Tip: Independence and freedom are relative. True freedom is the pursuit of inner freedom, not numbing yourself with busyness. Slow down and discover the beauty around you, feel the love from those around you, and find true love.