This Kind of State is the Best For Women When They are Single

The story begins with a friend sending me a message, saying: “There’s a friend of mine who perfectly fits the state I described.”

Her friend, born in 1986, has always been pursued and has also pursued men. She has had several relationships, with the youngest being born in 1991. Many of them even introduced her to their parents. Some were wealthy, had good temperaments, and were devoted to her.

She knows exactly what she wants in life. Marriage is just a phase in her life. With a broad perspective, she can handle every phase with ease and doesn’t get worked up over the gains and losses of each phase. She wants the whole world and isn’t concerned about small gains and losses.

She is assertive at work, can work hard, and can be cute and alluring in relationships, maintaining boundaries without being extreme. She is emotionally stable and has a good temper. She can handle her emotions and mood swings, and her exes would calm her down within 10 minutes.

She can deal with her loneliness, enjoy the life she has arranged, and also bring men into her life to enjoy it with her. She treats men as equals and not as saviors of women.

Let’s consider two real cases to think about.

Negative case:

The woman is a lead singer in a band. At an event, a man immediately liked her but thought she was very aloof. In the five years they knew each other, he never dared to get close, just liking and commenting on her posts.

After an event, the woman, after drinking, said in front of everyone: “You all say he likes me, but he has never contacted me privately. I did consider him, but he has never taken the initiative.”

If the man had been a little more courageous, or if the woman had been less aloof and had taken the initiative, their future might have been different.

Positive case:

The woman met a man at an event, and they hit it off instantly, having a lot in common. The woman gathered the courage to invite the man and express her feelings.

The man’s attitude was ambiguous until one day the woman couldn’t hold back and confessed her feelings.

The man refused, and the woman didn’t cry or make a scene but calmly parted ways with the man and never bothered him.

Although the woman was very sad, she continued living her life well, remaining sunny, fun, and grateful for her good life.

A month later, the man contacted the woman, and earnestly confessed his feelings.

He told her: “After I rejected you, I thought you would pester me like other girls, but you didn’t. During this month, without your company, I seriously thought about our previous conversations and outings. I missed you more and more, wanted to talk to you, and wanted your company.”

Many women are like the woman in the negative case.

You have to treat me well for me to treat you well; you have to like me for me to consider liking you.

Even though relationships are uncertain, life always needs to be in your control.

Most people are dealt a bad hand, but with a little effort, two people with the same hand can have different lives and outcomes after five years.

These two kinds of people are those who rely on themselves and those who wait for fate.