This Kind of Man, No Matter How Successful, is Not Worth Your Love
At the beginning of the article, let me ask you a question: what is your definition of a successful man?
Some might say a successful man has a car, a house, savings, good connections, strong resources, can spend freely, swipe cards without worry, spend money like water, drive luxury cars, and live in mansions. That’s the image of a successful man, right?
But I believe that true success in a man is not just about material possessions. It’s not enough to judge a person solely based on material wealth. Their inner qualities, cultural refinement, social status, and personality charm are equally important. A truly successful man is not just about appearances.
There’s a saying that goes, “Appreciation starts with looks, respect comes from talent, compatibility lies in character, long-term commitment stems from kindness and integrity.” So, defining success is not that simple.
A teacher once said that a man who is solely focused on success, no matter how outstanding he is, is not worth trusting.
He mentioned that while it’s not wrong for a man to want to succeed, if he thinks that this pursuit is noble and a woman should unconditionally support it, then it’s disrespectful. A woman who sacrifices for such a man will not have a good ending.
If a man succeeds, he may abandon the woman. If he fails, she becomes a burden. If she wants to leave, she’s labeled as someone who only cares about money. Because a man whose sole focus is success sees everyone as stepping stones on his path to success. This selfish dream is terrifying. Such a man, no matter how exceptional he is, is not worth entrusting your life to.
To determine a man’s success, we need to look beyond his material wealth and economic status. We should also consider his cultivation and demeanor. A truly successful man reflects on himself, strives for self-improvement, and doesn’t just shift blame to others.
When a man is overly ambitious and sees everyone around him as tools for his success, he is not reliable in the end.
I once saw a scene in a movie where the male lead spent all his savings on a business venture that ultimately failed. Exhausted, he blamed his wife and children for everything, saying that if it weren’t for them, he wouldn’t be in such a dire situation today.
During an argument, the man even resorted to violence against his wife, leaving the child in tears. He yelled, “Stop crying! If you keep crying, I’ll kick you out.”
Seeing such a scene, one would find this man terrifying. Not only is he incapable, but he also shifts all responsibilities to others. This irresponsibility is a clear sign of a lack of character. A responsible man considers others’ feelings, dedicates time to self-improvement, and doesn’t make excuses for himself.
When a man is willing to sacrifice others for his own success, it’s not commendable behavior. Such a person is selfish, willing to harm others for personal gain. Even if he is successful, he doesn’t deserve respect.
Excessively selfish men often lack self-love and the ability to love others.
Men who are excessively selfish tend to be more authoritarian. They believe they can control everything and are more dictatorial than selfish women.
In reality, this holds true. Overly selfish men tend to be more authoritarian, not considering others’ feelings and acting recklessly. Being with such a man will only lead to suffering, with no room for your own voice.
These men like to be in control, disregarding others’ feelings for their own pleasure.
Men who are overly authoritarian lack respect for others and tend to act more extremely in real-life situations.
Excessively selfish men prioritize self-interest over others.
It’s natural for people to have some degree of selfish desires, but when this selfishness harms others, it needs to be restrained.
In real life, a man with excessive selfish tendencies tends to prioritize self-interest, disregarding others’ feelings. Being with such a person will inevitably lead to personal harm.
Therefore, it’s important to understand who we should love in real life. While successful men are admirable, there are various considerations behind their success.
An excessively selfish man, no matter how outstanding or successful, will not earn respect from others and is not deserving of your love. Being with such a man will only reveal his unreliability over time.
When assessing a person, we must consider various aspects. No one is perfect, but the person we love should have good character, refinement, and qualities, as only such a person truly understands the lifelong commitment we entrust to them.
