The Wife and the Mistress: What Men Care About Forever
Roman Roland said, “The only greatness of marriage lies in the unique love, the mutual loyalty of two hearts.”
However, in some people’s marriages, such loyal love is just out of reach. Even if they can control themselves, they can’t control their partner.
Betrayal is the bottom line of marriage. Yet, in marriage, there are always those who will recklessly cross this line.
To outsiders, if a man cheats on his wife and has a mistress, it’s because he’s tired of his marriage life and doesn’t love his wife anymore, which is why he does such a thing.
But is that really the case? Are all men who cheat because they don’t love their wives?
In fact, the wife and the mistress, what men care about forever is their wife, but many silly women just don’t get it.
Xi Murong said, “Marriage is not just about two people facing each other; it’s about two people holding hands to face the world together.”
When they first get married, couples are clear about this and will face the world together.
But as the marriage progresses to a certain stage, some people start to feel bored and tired of it. Because they’ve gotten used to this life, they think there’s nothing worth cherishing.
As Shakespeare said, “Many things in the world, the enthusiasm for pursuing them is always stronger than the enthusiasm for enjoying them.”
There are many such men in life. When they fall in love with a woman, they’re like they’ve lost their minds, and no matter what the cost, they’ll pursue her and marry her without hesitation.
The hard-won love is naturally fresh at the beginning, and they’ll put in a lot of effort to please the woman. But after getting her, the man will feel secure once he’s sure the woman won’t leave him, and he’ll start to enjoy this life comfortably.
As time goes by, the husband and wife’s feelings become like left hand touching right hand, and this familiarity makes men lose their sense of freshness, even feeling that this life is too dull.
When they encounter external temptations, men will feel fresh again and might even think they’ve found true love.
There’s no wall that can’t be breached, and once a man cheats, even if he tries to hide it, he’ll reveal himself through some details.
Perhaps when the mistress asks the man who’s more important, he’ll say it’s her. But women should know that the man is just saying this to please her and to continue this relationship. Moreover, in such situations, men won’t mention their wives or think about their marriage.
Without threats, they can’t feel the importance of marriage. Without comparison, they can’t appreciate the goodness of their wives.
Once the truth comes out, the man is like a child who’s done something wrong, recklessly choosing to give up the mistress and return to his wife’s side, hoping to get her forgiveness.
Do you remember the popular TV series “Thirty and Only” a few months ago? In it, Xu Fantian liked Lin Youyou, a simple and powerless girl, because his wife was too strong and could solve all his problems, making him feel like he wasn’t being worshipped or needed as a man.
So, he liked Lin Youyou, but Xu Fantian never thought of using his marriage as a price for this love. Clearly, he loved Gu Ji, and cheating on his wife was just a temporary excitement.
When he came to his senses, he started to regret his actions. In the end, he chose to hurt Lin Youyou but couldn’t bear to say hurtful words to Gu Ji.
This kind of betrayal also tells us that a mistress is just a mistress, ultimately just a temporary rescue from the dullness of marriage, only to satisfy one’s temporary pleasure.
While the wife is forever the wife, something a mistress can’t replace.
In the wife and mistress, what men care about forever is their wife. Unfortunately, many women don’t understand this, and when they develop feelings for a man, even if they know he has a family, they still confidently think they can replace that woman and become the man’s wife.
Such women are too silly and naive. An illicit affair can’t replace a formal marriage, and even if it does, it’s hard to sustain and will suffer from the strange gaze of others.
Women, stop being silly. If you’re involved with a man who has a family, no matter how much you love him, keep your rationality and stay away from such men, preventing such emotions from happening.
You should know that if your relationship isn’t discovered, you might be able to enjoy this happiness, but once it’s exposed, the man will immediately turn against you and even accuse you of various things, just to seek his wife’s forgiveness.
Marriage is a major test of life.
For men, since they’ve chosen a marriage, they should take responsibility for it. If they want to seek true love, please end their marriage first. If they can’t bear to give up their marriage, please put an end to such thoughts and live a down-to-earth life.
As Zhou Guoping said, “If you want peace, get married; if you want freedom, stay single.”
