The True Sign of Not Letting Go of Someone is Living Like Them
“In reality, few men understand this truth. They pursue women thinking they are the best in the world, willing to give them everything. But once they have them, things change.
Most of the time, it’s the men who pursue women. However, in the end, it’s the women who are hurt and left disappointed.”
Some men start off thinking a woman is their whole world, only to want her to leave later on.
Initially, it’s the man who picks up this relationship, but in the end, it’s the woman who can’t let go.
One aunt said, “After marrying my husband right after college, he was loving and pure. But as time went on, he changed, betrayed me, and asked for a divorce. After the divorce, I couldn’t let go of him. Instead of contacting my ex-husband like most women would, I started living carefreely like him. I became more carefree, spoke less, and understood many things.”
The true sign of not letting go of someone is not contacting them but living like them.
Truly Letting Go Happens Quietly
“The person leaving makes the quietest door closure.”
Those who leave silently never return.
“Some people leave and never come back…”
True departure isn’t loud sobbing but silently walking away.
Walking quietly, even the footsteps are light, refraining from harsh words or messages, remaining quiet, even though the person is still in your contacts but silent.
Maybe someone has left but hasn’t truly moved on. Even if not over them, avoid contacting them to save face. Sometimes, silence is the best choice, freeing both parties.
When separated, get used to silently enduring it and refrain from disturbing the other person. They might have moved on and found someone else.
As a woman, learn to be quiet, not heartbroken during goodbyes, it’s a way to respect yourself.
Someone’s Cruelty Shapes the Present You
In a palace intrigue drama, a queen dowager tells her servants, “The previous queen was once as innocent as you, but after enduring betrayals, she became who she is now.”
Someone’s cruelty can make a woman more carefree. Initially, women are pure, craving love and care.
But when utterly disappointed, you realize you no longer need that person and see their true colors.
Even if you see through them, it doesn’t mean you’ve let go. Someone’s cruelty can make you stronger, less emotionally invested in the next relationship.
When facing the next relationship, you’ll be more rational and carefree.
You might become as carefree as your past partner, even hurting the next person. It’s a phase everyone must go through.
With Life Being Short, Be Kind to Yourself
In a few short decades, be kind to yourself. Sometimes, what we care about suddenly loses importance.
People or things we obsessed over may no longer matter. Sometimes, the realization hits that life is tough, and self-love is essential.
As you age, you’ll realize the only person you may have wronged is yourself.
Sometimes, thinking of someone might stir emotions, but remembering how they treated you will reassure you.
Every path you’ve earnestly tread will be cherished, with no regrets, as you’ve never wronged anyone.
Life is short. Spending all your time on others will leave you scarred. It’s wise to be a bit selfish, loving yourself without hurting others.
Let go of what’s not worth it. When everything fades away, you’ll find peace.
Maturity is Understanding: Besides Parents, Love Isn’t Unconditional
With maturity comes the realization that, besides parents, love isn’t unconditional.
Initially, love seemed reasonless, but relationships reveal otherwise. Sometimes, you adore someone who doesn’t reciprocate or treats you unfairly, making you realize your parents’ sacrifices.
If you can’t let go, looking at your aged parents, you’ll understand their importance. Being unable to move on will drain you and burden your parents.
Maturity is appreciating parents’ efforts, knowing when to let go without reaching out, saving face for your parents.
If you lower yourself in front of someone you like, losing face, you’ll be undervalued, feeling more insignificant.
“Fall to the ground and bloom.”
After falling to the ground, no one blooms into a beautiful flower. It applies to all, even ordinary people.
