The True Meaning Behind “Being Tough as a Mother”

In this world, every day someone is giving you a lot of chicken soup. Originally, the dog-blooded life, under the chicken soup, forcibly turned into chicken blood.

Many women, after becoming mothers, relied on the standard “being strong for motherhood” chicken soup to bear all the grievances and suffering.

Is it really “strong”? Actually, not at all. If they were really “strong,” how could they endure so much pain and suffering in marriage…

A woman’s nature is inherently delicate and emotional, so they yearn for love and stability in life. Their initial dream is nothing more than finding a hero and living a happy life.

However, life doesn’t always go as planned. The more you care and pursue, the more it seems like the heavens are against you, denying you what you want. Women who are deeply emotional are more likely to be hurt in love, it seems to be a rule of the world.

In reality, though there are bad women, most of the suffering in the world of love is still borne by women.

Once becoming a mother, society imposes new responsibilities on women. No matter how much suffering you endure in marriage and family, for the sake of your children, you have to bear it all. Sacrificing your own happiness for the happiness of your children is the so-called model of being strong for motherhood.

If a man neglects his children, people joke that he is still a child himself; if a woman neglects her children, she is considered an anomaly. The responsibilities of a father and a mother towards their children are equal. Emphasizing “being strong for motherhood” should also apply to fathers; behind the idea of being strong for motherhood, it reflects the lack of action or presence of the father, which is a mockery and humiliation of men.

For a family, it seems that a man only needs to earn money; but for women, if the family is not harmonious, it is basically the woman’s responsibility. A man only needs to earn money, and everything else seems unimportant; even if a woman manages the household well, she still needs to earn money, otherwise she is considered to be someone who relies on a man for a living.

People often say: “If life didn’t force you, who would push themselves to their limits?”

After becoming a mother, this seems to be the case. If life didn’t force you, who would endure the toughness of being “strong” for a lifetime!

In reality, the typical examples of “being strong for motherhood” are nothing more than two types: the high-level ninjas who unconditionally endure suffering in a painful marriage for the sake of their children, and the single mothers facing endless pain and the world alone—it’s not easy.

Of course, it is important to remind those mothers who persist in a painful marriage to understand the true meaning of “being strong for motherhood.” This does not mean compromising everything without principles and bottom lines for the sake of the children. Your endurance should not be due to your own weakness, this is not true “strength”. You can stay in a marriage for the sake of your children, but you must set an example for them. Some things are intolerable and don’t need to be endured, this is the education that must be given to the children.

Finally, let’s end with a story:

A mother, divorced because of her husband’s betrayal, raised two children on her own. Others said she was very strong, but she always smiled and said nothing.

She said, “Being strong for motherhood is all nonsense. The children can no longer have a qualified father, I cannot let them lose a reliable mother.”