The True Colors of First Love: A Reflection on Youth
There’s a Kind of Love That Can’t Be Obtained, Not Because of Cowardice, But Because of Youth
I once heard a song called “Waiting for One Minute”:
This song tells the story of how I missed out on my past love, and the lyrics reveal my reluctance to let go of the other person. However, I’ve lost the opportunity now.
Some people might be the right person for us, but we let them slip away because we didn’t know any better back then.
Sometimes you’ll feel:
If only I had been bolder back then, maybe we would have had a different story, and in the many years that followed, I would still be thinking about what could have been. If only I had been more courageous.
Sometimes you’ll think that during our youth, we missed out on the person we loved the most because of our studies and our parents’ objections. This is one of our greatest losses, and we’ll wonder what would have happened if we hadn’t been so timid.
Actually, there’s a kind of love that can’t be obtained, not because of cowardice, but because of youth.
The Love of Youth Is Genuine
The love during our youth is the most genuine, and maybe when we grow up, we’ll find that people become increasingly indifferent, just like in relationships.
When others become indifferent, we’ll also become more indifferent, not because our hearts have become cruel, but because we’ve been hurt many times, and we’ll leave a piece of our heart behind.
So, when you’re in a relationship in the future, you’ll realize that the feelings of the past are the most genuine and true. Maybe back then, we were just thinking about loving that person, and that’s why it was like that.
Many years later, when you’re talking about love again, you might think about many things, and you might not be sincere with the other person because we’ve grown up, and we’ll always leave a piece of our heart behind.
So, you’ll think back and realize that although you might have felt like a coward during your youth, you were actually very brave. For example, when you wanted to be with someone, you would consider many things, and sometimes you’d want to chase after the other person, but you’d be afraid of being rejected because of fear, and that’s why you missed out.
But even so, this is a kind of youth, and this love is genuine. Many people, even if they didn’t end up together, will always be the best.
The Love of Youth Is Precious
The love during our youth is extremely precious, and the love at that time is naive and pure, so the love back then is especially beautiful.
When you grow up, you’ll talk about love according to a set of rules because you’ll always believe:
“True love cannot be retained, only a set of rules can capture people’s hearts.”
So, you’ll think that as long as you have a set of rules, you’ll be able to be with someone smoothly, and if you don’t have a set of rules, you’ll drift apart, and you’ll use some tricks hesitantly.
Therefore, sometimes it’s not that we’re cowardly during our youth; we’re just accustomed to being cautious, and when we grow up, we become even more cautious because we’re not brave enough to use our genuine hearts to face others.
During our youth, we might be cautious when we’re in love with someone, but we should do what we want according to our own will, not according to someone else’s rules.
The love of youth is the most precious because when we’re young, we won’t use tricks to treat others, and when we grow up, someone uses tricks to deal with us, and we’ll feel that love has become less genuine.
Because if someone uses tricks to treat you, you’ll feel uncomfortable, and love becomes meaningless.
Maybe during our youth, we’ll be anxious when we’re with someone, but that love is extremely precious, and being anxious with someone is a kind of happiness because that anxiety is the most precious.
Meeting the Person You Love the Most During the Age of Not Understanding Love
During the age of not understanding love, we met the person we love the most, which is our happiness and also our loss.
Just like some people, when they reach a certain age, they’ll regret that if they had the chance, they would hold the other person’s hand tightly, but back then, they didn’t understand, so they missed out.
Some people will think that if they had the chance, they would be bolder, and they would fight for the opportunity to be with the other person again.
Because many people think this way, many people will still think about their past loves even after they’re married.
Actually, you’ll feel that you met the person you love the most during the age of not understanding love, so in the past few decades, you’ve been immersed in that feeling and can’t let go.
But sometimes, when you look back, you’ll realize that the person beside you now is also the best person, and those people in the past are only beautiful because they’re unattainable.
It’s like when you let those people from the past meet with us again, you’ll discover that the two of you no longer have a common language, and maybe you two would have no common language even if you were together now.
So, sometimes you should let go when you should, and maybe back then, we really didn’t understand love, or our impulsiveness hurt the other person, causing the two of you to drift apart, but that’s okay because when two people are together, there will always be some conflicts.
Youth is full of misunderstandings, and these misunderstandings might be caused by you or the other person. At that time, you’ll be very hurt, and many years later, you’ll still remember.
So, sometimes you’ll be filled with regret, but you should know that sometimes, imperfections are also a kind of beauty, just like youth.
If you really are with the other person, maybe now it’s a different scene, and in your heart, the other person might not be that perfect, just like the saying goes:
“What you can’t get is always the best.”
Only because you missed out, you’ll imagine the beautiful times you would have had with the other person, and at that time, you’ll think of the other person as the best person, but actually, it’s not always the case.
