The Right Way to Handle Someone Not Responding to Messages

Between people, there are always some who are more proactive and some who are more passive.

Actually, when we happen to be the more proactive one, as long as our initiative is valued by the other person and our messages are responded to seriously, it doesn’t really matter who initiates the conversation.

When our initiative is valued and reciprocated, even if we were the first to reach out, we don’t need to keep track of who initiated the conversation.

Every time we message someone, we hope for a response like this.

We hope they won’t ignore us, will reply promptly, reply seriously, and be happy to chat with us.

However, there are times when our messages seem to disappear into thin air. In such cases, it’s easy to feel upset, but even so, we still need to learn how to handle it well.

Don’t keep staring and asking repeatedly.

As humans, we all naturally hope for a reply as soon as we send a message.

If the other person doesn’t reply, we might start to overthink, wondering if they are too busy to see the message or if something has come up that’s keeping them from responding to us.

Unconsciously, we start speculating and keep staring at the chat box, constantly refreshing it, even suspecting if it’s our own phone or network that’s having issues.

After checking repeatedly, we may easily become somewhat out of control, sending message after message, asking why they haven’t replied and urging them to respond as soon as they see our messages.

At first, we might be rational, but later we might get agitated and our words might become biased.

In conversations, we can easily become that way, but if possible, we’d better not.

Instead of obsessing over this and bombarding with messages, we should stay calm and not be too pushy.

Otherwise, the other person is likely to find us scary and unable to control our emotions, instantly forming a bad impression and becoming more reluctant to respond to us.

Focus on the present and wait quietly.

Some people, because they don’t receive a reply, can’t focus on work, can’t concentrate on anything, and can’t even sleep at night, keeping their attention on the messages they sent.

Just lying there quietly, thinking about the message they sent and still haven’t received a response.

In the end, their mood fluctuates for a long time, and their own matters are delayed.

It’s natural to expect a reply and wait for the other person’s response, but we shouldn’t dwell on this and let it prevent us from doing anything else.

Our lives are about more than just this one thing; there are many more important things.

It’s not worth getting so involved in something that’s not that important and not very wise.

Moreover, no matter how anxious we are and how much we keep an eye on the messages, if the other person replies, they will still reply, and if they don’t, they still won’t respond.

So, since the message has been sent, we should just focus on what we need to do.

Do what we need to do, live in the moment, and wait for the other person’s response, seeing if they will reply, when they will reply, and how they will reply to us.

If they reply, continue; if not, move on.

Later, even if the other person replies a little late, as long as they reply sincerely and warmly and explain the delay, it’s obvious that they don’t want to neglect us, and we should just continue the conversation.

If it’s not intentional, and it’s just a delay that they’re making up for, we shouldn’t mind it and should give the other person a chance.

Even if they reply, but it’s perfunctory and they don’t have any intention of having a relationship with us, we should just be polite and end the conversation after a few words.

If the other person is not interested in having a close relationship with us, once we understand their intentions, we shouldn’t force it and should keep our distance.

Of course, if we still don’t receive a reply after twenty or forty-eight hours, we can be a little disappointed, but we shouldn’t dwell on it too much.

The other person not replying is also a kind of response, simply indicating that they don’t care, nothing more.

Since they don’t care, we should just delete that message, close the chat box, and not reopen it.

Afterward, if the other person reaches out to us, we can reply a little, but if they don’t, we don’t need to message them again and can remove them from our world.

The right way to handle someone not responding to messages is to wait and see.

Quietly let time give us an answer.

If the answer is what we want, we can rejoice and cherish it.

If the answer is not what we want, we shouldn’t feel burdened by our initiative. Being proactive is our willingness, our sincerity, and we should follow our hearts without feeling ashamed.

After that, we should also follow the other person’s wishes.

Matters of the heart and any relationship are between two people.

We should listen to ourselves and not force others. Let’s just accept all the consequences calmly.