The Reasons Why Women Undermine Their Value, You Better Believe It

Women all want to be elegant and beautiful. We are constantly striving to become more beautiful. Beauty isn’t just about appearance, but also about inner beauty and temperament. Our temperament, speech, knowledge, education, and the confidence we emit from within are all related to how we are judged as beautiful women.

Men also like women who possess both external and internal beauty. A good-looking appearance will eventually become mundane, and our looks will fade with time. So, what ultimately keeps a man interested in a woman is the charm of the person herself, isn’t it?

So why do some women seem to undermine their own value? Is it because of their poor external conditions? Is it because they are not doing well in some aspect? In fact, these are not the main reasons. The basic reasons why women undermine their value are these three factors. Take a look and see if you are doing anything that undermines your own value.

Lacking self-respect

Whether it’s a man or a woman, self-respect is important while receiving love from others. If you don’t like or love yourself, how can others possibly love you? People should love themselves first and then love others. This is what I have always believed. Be kinder to yourself, learn to love yourself, find your strengths, and affirm yourself regularly. Only a confident person will emit a confident radiance.

What I mean by self-affirmation is not arrogance, but to a certain extent, acknowledging oneself. If you have done well in any aspect, there is no need to be excessively modest. If others can’t appreciate your excellence, you can appreciate yourself and affirm your efforts.

A woman’s confidence comes from self-confidence and self-respect. Don’t just go with the flow, don’t become a man’s appendage. If a woman depends on a man for a long time and feels incapable of doing anything herself, then no one can change your mindset over time. Because you have already denied your own existence, as well as your own value and significance.

Lack of independence

Perhaps a woman doesn’t earn as much as a man, but what’s the big deal? We earn our own money and spend it as we please, without having to consider others. We can be happy and content on our own. On the contrary, if we are not independent, lack the awareness of earning and saving money, and have to ask for money even for small expenses, then life becomes so suffocating.

Women should also have the ability to be independent, just like men. We should be capable of managing both household and work, and we don’t have to depend on men to live. We can earn money ourselves, support our families, and build a home. When our man is tired, we can say, “Take a break, don’t worry, I’ve got this.” Isn’t that great?

I have always believed that an independent person is admirable by anyone. It’s okay for women to occasionally rely on men. Men will find you cute, gentle, and feminine. But after living together for a long time, men also get tired. If you are a very dependent woman, your partner will definitely feel exhausted, and may even see you as a burden.

Lack of self-discipline

How charming and charismatic a self-disciplined person can be!

But the self-discipline not only brings them health, but also charm in both appearance and spirit.

The difference between a self-disciplined person and one who lacks discipline is very obvious in the long run. I had two college roommates, A and B. A was a particularly self-disciplined person. Even on days without classes or during weekends, she insisted on getting up at 7:00 every morning, then dressing up and doing her makeup. During college, she transformed from a makeup novice to winning awards in the school’s etiquette competition, which was all related to her persistent studying and practicing makeup skills.

While we were struggling to find jobs after graduation, she had already received a job offer. When we were just starting our internships with a monthly salary of two to three thousand, she was already earning over 10,000 each month, which was inseparable from her self-discipline and hard work during college.

On the other hand, my other roommate, B, lived aimlessly for four years. Every time before exams, she would cram at the last minute, barely passing most of her exams, and even failing a few courses. She called it “a college life without failing any courses is not complete.” After graduation, she didn’t know what to do, had few skills, was picky about job options, and eventually went back to her hometown to inherit the family business.

If you are self-disciplined and can stick to your plans, you will find that your life seems to be on autopilot. In fact, it’s not about being on autopilot, but about your hard work paying off. What you reap is just the reward you deserve.

Confidence, self-respect, self-discipline, and independence are all part of a woman’s charm. This is what women rely on. No matter who you rely on, relying on yourself is better. You will find that only yourself is the most reliable, and only when you are outstanding can you attract an even better partner.