The One Who Lingers in the Heart, Whether Seen or Unseen, Will Be Missed
Emotions are a strange thing. They can take root in your heart without you realizing it. By the time you notice, you’re already deeply in love, unable to be without them. Just like the one who lingers in your heart, whether seen or unseen, will be missed.
Love is love, and when we truly love someone, we constantly think about them. Wondering what they are doing at this moment, and if they think of us too.
After such a long time apart, will they forget about us? We think about them during meals, work, and even before falling asleep. It’s like an addiction that we can’t shake off.
Is this good or bad? It’s hard to say. In our lifetime, we will always meet someone who makes us abandon our principles, lower our standards, and even become humble.
But the chance to love someone shamelessly only comes once or twice. Once it’s used up, we won’t love with such passion again. We become more concerned about gains and losses, afraid to give our all. The saying “once bitten, twice shy” also applies to love.
Why do we say “The one who lingers in the heart, whether seen or unseen, will be missed”?
Deep Feelings, Shallow Fate
Do people part because they no longer love each other? I don’t think so. It’s often because of deep feelings and shallow fate, leaving a lifetime of regrets.
Those who have experienced it understand that saying “I love you, but it ends here” doesn’t just mean falling out of love. It’s more likely because they know there’s no future for the two of them, and they have to make a clean break.
But the emotions between two people don’t just stop because they’ve broken up. It’s not easy to cut off all feelings when you’ve loved deeply. Even after parting ways, we still think about each other. We recall the moments we shared and repeatedly remind ourselves that they no longer belong to us. We may feel relieved for a moment, then burst into tears the next.
As the lyrics go, “Cutting off contact with you doesn’t mean I don’t miss you. I still think of you wherever I go. I’m trying to forget and erase all the past abandoned connections between us.” It’s not that we don’t want to contact them, but we don’t know how to. The one who lingers in the heart is not easy to forget.
Your Well-being, My Sunshine
Knowing that you are doing well doesn’t make me happy, because you are happy without me. Does that mean I’m dispensable to you? Knowing that you are not doing well makes me even more unhappy, because you are the one I love, and I want you to be happy. So I hope you are doing well, but please don’t let me know.
Because we once loved them, we still want them to be happy. This is something only those who have loved can understand. Regardless of the past, since there’s no future, being stubborn is pointless. It’s better to be generous and wish them well.
If you are safe and sound, then whether you are in front of me or not, my mood will be bright and cheerful, like the warm sunshine on a clear day.
Only when love reaches its extreme can one say such things. When you understand that loving someone is not always about possession, but also about letting go, you may become so free-spirited. They say love in the end is about letting go, just like Givenchy’s love for Hepburn: “I love you, do as you please.”
When we love someone, our thoughts are not under our control. We unconsciously associate everything we do with that person. We may remember them with a smile, only to end up in tears. But that’s the path of love—loving right is love, loving wrong is just part of our youth.
When we are young, we have to grow through trial and error, and love is no exception.
Just like the lyrics go, “Later, I finally learned how to love, but unfortunately, you had long disappeared into the crowd. Later, I finally understood in tears, that some people, once missed, will never return…”
It’s strange how emotions work. They don’t appear at the right time. By the time we learn how to love, that person from the past is long gone.
Loneliness may be a part of life, and perhaps losing is more reassuring than possessing. But the time we spent together was truly happy and real. It’s the most beautiful memory in our minds, and we will miss it, miss that time, and miss that person.
Humans are emotional beings. The one who lingers in the heart, whether seen or unseen, will always be missed.
