The Man Who Refuses to Share These Three Things with You is Pretending to Love You
Some time ago, I posted an article, and a friend commented:
“As a woman, you must withstand lies, endure perfunctoriness, tolerate deception, forget promises, and finally use a smile to cover up the tears that fall. I’d rather believe in ghosts than believe in a man’s broken promises!”
After seeing this comment, I felt relieved. Relieved that there are some women who are clear-headed in relationships.
But I also felt a bit sad. Sad that there is still so little genuine emotion in this world!
In love, men learn to pretend, and eventually women learn to disguise themselves too.
When young, we believe in true love, only to realize later that it was just a dream.
Men who claim to love you but won’t share something with you are simply pretending to love you.
When a woman truly falls for a man, she might give up everything. Sometimes, a husband seems more important than parents or siblings.
But a woman must give her heart to someone deserving, someone willing to share with her: time, money, and pressure.
Not to someone who never shares with you, just says “I love you” without actions.
Love is mysterious but too easily disguised.
Time
Smart women marry men who love them; foolish women marry men they love.
A person willing to share time with you truly loves you.
Lenny has been with her boyfriend for three to four years, but he rarely spends time with her.
Recently, they have been in a long-distance relationship. Despite this, her boyfriend never visits her. He only chats via video or messages.
Lenny misses him and wishes he would make the effort to see her, especially in a long-distance relationship. Yet, after almost a year, he still hasn’t.
He claims, “I’m busy with work and experiments every day, even on weekends.”
Even during holidays, he doesn’t come to visit.
In theory, many people have time off during holidays, so why is Lenny’s boyfriend always busy?
In reality, time is made, not found. Someone who truly loves you will make time to be with you, not ignore you while focusing on themselves.
A person may claim to have no time for a month, but if they never have time within a year, it shows they are just pretending to love you, maybe keeping you around until something better comes along.
Women easily lose themselves in love, becoming blind and trusting whatever a man says.
Some women believe a man is busy and feel sorry for him, not realizing he might be lying about his busyness.
Remember, women should understand men, but also remember: a man who never shares time with you, who doesn’t accompany you, is not trustworthy.
Many people are busy but still make time for their partners. Why can’t your boyfriend? Think about it.
Money
People say women are materialistic, focusing on money. When marrying, they want a house, a car, and a hefty dowry.
Men can be the same, if not more so. They understand the importance of money for status and guard their wallets tightly.
I recently saw a video where a man, to save money, refused to spend on his loving girlfriend. He even got angry when she bought slightly pricier clothes.
Eventually, she left him. He tried to find someone else but returned to find she had married someone else.
If a man is reluctant to spend on you, it shows he doesn’t love you, even if a man who is willing to spend on you doesn’t necessarily love you.
Some men spend lavishly on themselves but are stingy with their partners, unwilling to share money.
Some splurge with friends but are thrifty with their girlfriends.
Such men don’t truly love women; they just want someone to struggle with as they pursue their careers.
Women fear not a man’s poverty but his pretense of poverty, his reluctance to spend on them.
In the end, women marry not for wealth but for a man’s attitude and love towards them.
Stress
I have a friend who recently graduated from college. Her boyfriend works elsewhere, while she stays here.
Due to his master’s degree, he finds work easily, but she, despite being a top student with many achievements, struggles due to lack of connections.
She hasn’t found a job yet and faces rejection everywhere. Despite excelling in college and winning scholarships, organizing events, and gaining experience through internships, her lack of connections hinders her.
During this difficult time, her boyfriend not only fails to understand but also criticizes her daily.
One day, she said to me, “I feel the world is too tough. My boyfriend doesn’t understand me, and I can’t find a job. I’m under immense pressure, tired, but he doesn’t share the burden and adds to it.”
A man who truly loves you will support you during tough times, not look down on you when you’re struggling.
In life, we encounter many hardships. If a man refuses to share your burdens, he doesn’t truly love you.
Find someone willing to share the pressure, help each other, and build a beautiful life together.
A person who refuses to share these three things with you is pretending to love you. Don’t be fooled, ladies.
