The Easiest Way to Make Couples Drift Apart, Smart Women Never Touch, Foolish Women Keep Doing
Recently, I saw this on the internet:
“All disappointments accumulate bit by bit. When enough disappointments gather, that person will leave.”
Most women would say this to men because they believe if men don’t change or make too many mistakes, they will leave.
But women’s actions can also hurt men’s feelings.
In life, one hand alone cannot clap. Marriage requires effort from both sides. In this relationship, women surely make mistakes that lead to a breakup.
Of course, if a man cheats, it’s his fault. But if the relationship falls apart due to other reasons where the man did not cheat, it shows the woman also made mistakes.
Therefore, women in marriage must have a sense of propriety. Marriage is not about one person’s compromise but the joint effort of two people.
The easiest way to make couples drift apart: smart women avoid it, while foolish women keep doing it.
Making Unreasonable Troubles
In the drama “Scarlet Heart,” after Zilin’s sister got married, she often made unreasonable troubles because of her unclear past feelings with her brother-in-law, feeling unbalanced inside.
Every time her husband didn’t agree with her, she would create troubles unreasonably. Once, she even scared her husband by giving him her prosthetic leg.
They could have lived peacefully, but her constant unreasonable behavior led to her husband’s intolerance. Eventually, they slept in separate rooms, communication decreased, and their relationship deteriorated. It even reached the point of considering divorce.
Therefore, women in marriage should have a sense of propriety. Don’t always make unreasonable troubles. Even when you do, be mindful. Some things can be joked about, but some cannot.
An adult must understand that some people, once lost, will never return. A man cannot always yield to a woman.
So, if a woman goes too far, the other person will choose to leave. Everyone has limits. When one can’t bear your pressure, they will escape.
Having Issues with Partner’s Parents
When you have issues with your partner’s parents, it will surely affect your partner’s feelings.
Many people end up either losing their husband or their parents because they can’t get along with their in-laws.
Therefore, sometimes it’s best not to create conflicts with your partner’s parents. This will only put your partner in a dilemma. After all, in this world, both your spouse and parents are important. Thinking that a man should only be good to his wife is a form of selfishness.
Imagine if a man doesn’t even love his own parents. Such a person lacks gratitude. Being with such a person will make you feel uneasy.
If you keep having issues with your partner’s parents, over time, many conflicts may arise in your family. In most cases, your relationship with your partner will suffer, and your marriage may face unhappiness.
So, a smart woman will definitely maintain a good relationship with her partner’s parents. When you have a good relationship with them, they can help you with things like taking care of your children, solving some of your problems.
Maintaining good relationships not only helps with your in-laws but also allows you to discuss and solve many family matters together. When family members support each other, the family becomes united. Unity is strength, and with unity, no obstacle in the family is insurmountable.
Therefore, women who can’t get along with their in-laws and always want to live separately will find themselves overwhelmed by work and children in the end. So, women need to be smarter; only then will your partner’s parents be able to help you.
Periodically Doubting Your Partner
Jack Ma said:
“The biggest challenge and breakthrough lie in using people, and the greatest breakthrough in using people lies in trusting people.”
Whether it’s a company boss trusting employees or a spouse trusting each other.
When someone receives trust from others, they will strive harder and work more enthusiastically.
Moreover, when someone praises you and sees you as trustworthy, you will be more sincere because you fear disappointing them. Therefore, you will do better.
However, in many marriages, some wives never trust their husbands. They always think their partner is deceiving them. Sometimes, when your partner answers a question, you keep questioning because you don’t believe them.
When a woman shows these signs, it hurts her husband, making him feel unjust and sometimes angry, leading to suspicions that can break the relationship. Lack of trust, whether from the husband or the wife, will eventually lead to problems in the marriage.
So, smart women will never doubt their husbands without evidence. Doing so can easily break the trust and damage the relationship.
Not Seeing Your Partner’s Hard Work
I have an aunt who has been married to her husband for over 40 years. In all these years, my aunt has never seen her husband’s hard work.
She stayed at home, indulging herself, never worked outside. Whenever her husband came home late, she would always nitpick and sometimes even betray him.
For instance, once when her husband was on a business trip, he returned to find her in bed with another man, leading to their divorce.
Therefore, a woman must see her partner’s hard work, be kind, and support them instead of betraying them. Marriage requires joint effort. A woman’s unhappiness in marriage may sometimes be due to choosing the wrong partner, but sometimes, we must reflect on ourselves. Maybe we haven’t been doing well, leading to these hardships.
