The Deepest Worries of Men in their 40s in Marriage Life—Three Men Revealed Their “Secrets”
Mr. Wang, Fear of Rejection
Being married to my wife for 20 years, we’ve been through thick and thin together. Our current relationship is not as intimate as before. She used to be affectionate, but now she constantly rejects me.
In the early days of our relationship, we were deeply in love. But now, she won’t even let me touch her because she says I snore. She even suggested sleeping in separate beds. Initially, I resisted but eventually started sleeping alone in the study to avoid disturbing her. However, this arrangement is not what I want, leading to many conflicts between us.
She complains that I lack romance and understanding. But the pressure from work and life exhausts me, making it hard to focus on her. Every time I try to be close to her at home, she keeps her distance, which hurts me deeply. I feel trapped and can’t express my frustrations.
After work, I long for her comfort and a simple hug at home, but we lack even basic intimacy now.
Mr. Li, Fear of Misunderstanding
Married to my wife for nearly 20 years, we were college sweethearts who chose to marry after graduation. Back then, we lived in a rented apartment as we had little money. I appreciate her understanding during that time.
I was in my twenties, and buying a car or a house seemed unrealistic. I worked tirelessly to provide her a better life, and she was understanding. As our life improved, our relationship underwent subtle changes.
She often complains that I don’t care for her, but my hard work is all for her. Perhaps, I failed to give her enough attention, leading to her complaints. I fear she doesn’t understand me, although we’ve been through so much together. Mutual understanding is key to a lasting relationship, and I dread hearing her complaints.
Mr. Zhu, Fear of Betrayal
After many years of marriage, I thought our bond was strong, but it changed drastically. Due to work, I traveled often and neglected my family.
Initially, my wife complained, but her care dwindled. Even when I didn’t come home, she remained calm. I was puzzled by her behavior. Eventually, she betrayed me, and our relationship ended.
I thought she would stay loyal, but she chose otherwise. Love seems insignificant compared to money. I don’t blame anyone, but I’ve lost faith in love.
In reality, men have their vulnerabilities. Life is tough, and they need support to succeed. Behind every successful man is a great woman.
Men long for companionship when tired and willingly sacrifice everything for love. Let’s cherish such men who understand and care. Happy marriages require mutual understanding and care.
A lasting love requires full commitment. Don’t betray marriage; offer men understanding, and they will love you more.
