The Couple Who Can’t Get Along But Can’t Leave Each Other, Let’s Do This
In “Fortress Besieged,” it is said:
“Marriage is like a fortress, with people outside wanting to get in and those inside wanting to get out.”
Before marriage, looking into each other’s eyes was all about brightness, but after marriage, it’s all impatience.
Before marriage, the couple experienced romance and many adventures together; after marriage, the daily grind weighed them down.
Single people long for marriage, while married people yearn for the single life.
Hence, many say:
“Marriage has a seven-year itch.”
When a marriage loses its spark and the couple starts resenting each other, it’s in crisis.
But how can you easily leave a marriage? It’s no longer just about the two people involved.
After marriage, there are elders above the couple, and perhaps children if the marriage has been long.
So, in some marriages, the couple can’t get along but also can’t separate.
Some may find married life monotonous, but as they say:
“Fate is determined by heaven, but happiness is in your hands.”
When fate brings two people together, it’s up to them to grasp happiness.
So when a couple struggles to get along but can’t leave, here’s what they can do.
Turn a blind eye
In life, there are always things that bother you, even with your own parents.
The conflicts arise from spending a lot of time together under one roof, facing various disagreements.
Even the most compatible couple had lives before meeting, so their differences in character stem from past experiences.
These differences make each person independent and shape their unique perspectives on life.
Some people argue with their partner over differing views, hurting both themselves and the relationship.
To manage a marriage well, it’s crucial to turn a blind eye.
You can’t control everything in life or your partner’s actions. Sometimes, it’s best to let things go.
Learning to compromise while maintaining personal boundaries is essential.
As the saying goes, sometimes stepping back opens up a whole new world. Turning a blind eye can be a form of compromise.
People often save their worst temper for loved ones and their best for strangers.
But why not treat the people around you well? Turning a blind eye can reveal the true meaning of compromise.
Share responsibilities at home
Two heads are better than one, which is why people seek a partner.
When you find a partner, it’s not about relying on them for everything but facing life’s challenges together.
The notion of “You earn money, and I’ll look good” isn’t practical. Imposing burdens without sharing responsibilities leads to problems in a marriage.
When conflicts arise and divorce seems impossible, try sharing responsibilities with your partner.
If your partner is lazy, find ways to divide household chores. If they are indifferent, agree to face life’s challenges together.
In life and marriage, don’t be a burden or a victim.
Learn to communicate with your partner to rekindle the relationship
Misunderstandings often arise from poor communication, leading to conflicts and strained relationships.
Effective communication is key to improving relationships, including marriage.
Misunderstandings between couples can worsen when family members add fuel to the fire.
So, when misunderstandings occur, communicate with your partner. Even after marriage, keep talking to understand each other’s thoughts.
Communication is a way to constantly update and understand each other in a marriage.
Famous hosts have said, “Marriage is about constantly renewing yourself and your partner, mutually attracting each other, and continuously falling in love with the same person.”
Marriages need constant updating, and communication is vital for understanding each other’s thoughts.
Sometimes, witnessing relationships around us can evoke mixed feelings.
Before considering divorce or separation, make every effort to save the relationship. Even if it doesn’t work out, tell yourself, “I will never regret.”
