The Biggest Difference Between “Wife” and Mistress in the Eyes of Men, It’s Too Real

Married men seem to have a common phenomenon: they think other men’s wives are good enough, but their own wives are worthless.

People have a habit of coveting things they can’t have, so they always have a strong desire for things that are near but out of reach.

Men like a woman because she can stir his heart but remains unattainable, which makes a man itch inside.

Men are impulsive. They never forget what they want but couldn’t conquer. Their gaze rarely lingers on the women around them, but on those who have not yet become their prey.

Men always like fresh things, so they never see their homely wives as treasures. The fresher the person, the more it stimulates their passion and desire. Therefore, to them, mistresses are always better than wives. They treat mistresses much more tenderly than wives.

Many women wonder why their husbands’ mistresses are not even attractive, while they themselves are. Why are men not interested in them but insist on finding someone less attractive?

In a man’s mind, the real difference between a wife and a mistress lies here, and you must understand it this time.

Wives always reminisce about the past hardships with their husbands, while mistresses enjoy happiness with men

Most original couples have been through hardships together, and as women, they naturally cherish this. The sweetness that comes after hardships makes them constantly remind their men not to forget the past pain and to cherish the present, not to squander life and resources.

But for men, living a tight, routine life makes them feel very tired. They don’t want to revisit past pain. Nobody wants to remember their pathetic past, but wives often say these things, which undoubtedly remind them of how unbearable they were. This makes men increasingly resentful towards their wives.

However, most women do not realize this. They always feel obligated to remind their husbands not to forget their roots and to live a down-to-earth life. But men are naturally playful. They always prefer relaxed and happy times, not tight, routine days. So most of them are willing to spend a lot of time with mistresses. They enjoy this feeling and do not feel sorry for it.

Mistresses will sweet talk, while wives often blame and disapprove

In life, we always think telling the truth is for the good of others, but not everyone likes to hear the truth. Everyone likes sweet talk, and men are no exception. They like to be admired, idolized, and treated like gods by women. Men are also vain. When they frequently hear these words from women, they forget everything.

This is why many men are willing to spend money on mistresses but not on their wives. Wives always blame and disapprove, always with a condescending attitude, which makes men resentful and fed up. Men naturally like to be admired and held in high regard, just like Su Daqiang in “All Is Well” dislikes his wife to the bone. He fears her but hates her, does not love her. However, the maid, Cai Genhua, can coax him and make him willing to give everything to be with her. That’s the power of sweet talk.

Wives consider everything in the house as theirs, while mistresses only consider themselves as his

Observing life, it is not difficult to find that wives treat everything as their own, while men often feel insignificant after children and parents. Men gradually feel disappointed in this relationship, so they seek a sense of significance from mistresses. When with mistresses, apart from their material contributions, mistresses consider themselves as the only ones, always seeing their existence and prioritizing themselves, making men feel valued and enjoying this attention.

So men always seek emotional warmth from mistresses, which most wives cannot provide. This is why they prefer to be with mistresses, as they have a relaxed and happy time with them, and enjoy being with someone who admires them and says pleasant things.

Mistresses understand romance, while wives focus more on reality

In marriage, most of the time spent between men and their wives revolves around trivial matters in life, mostly related to reality. Reality can be tiring for anyone, including men, who have to earn money, support the family, take care of children, and look after parents, making them feel breathless.

So most of the time, they want to escape reality, and being with mistresses only requires them to consider the mood, how to be romantic and comfortable. Being with mistresses gives a sense of relaxation and a dreamy feeling, which makes men feel comfortable and happy. This is why they are willing to do anything to be with a mistress, and why after mistresses become official, men no longer love them, despise them, and lose interest in them, for the same reason.

So, in married life, women must not forget the feelings of men in these aspects. Although life is real, we should not live too ascetically. Understand your own marriage and love, find some romance and excitement.

Occasionally, try treating yourself as your husband’s mistress, and do not let reality and life erase your romantic and pursuit of happiness. What do you think is the biggest difference between a wife and a mistress?