The Best Way to Love Someone is Not Through Frequent Contact, But by Giving Her These “Things”

Emotions have always been the most unpredictable thing in this world. Some people secretly admire someone, tossing and turning at night, unable to fall asleep. Some love but cannot have, ending in regret. And some love sincerely, holding hands, facing all the ups and downs together.

When we were young, we thought loving someone was simple. Just be kind to her, give her good things, and that’s love.

But as we grow older, we realize that loving someone is not just about saying “I love you.” Love may be one word, but it can be expressed in many different ways. Some love passionately, like a fire burning, while others love calmly and naturally.

Now I realize that my youthful love was mostly attached to my phone, which seems absurd. I used to think love was about texting each other when I was free, hoping to receive messages constantly.

“It is in the uneventful daily routine that true love is built.”

It’s only after experiencing a few relationships that I understand the best way to love someone is not through constant contact, but by giving her these “things”.

Women need these “things”.

Enough Sense of Security, for Women to Feel at Ease

There’s a saying online that the most touching words are not “I love you,” but the short and powerful phrase “I’m here.” When a woman is at her most vulnerable and helpless, these three simple words can provide her with enough warmth and security.

Security isn’t about how much money you have or what material possessions you can provide. It’s about making her truly believe in your love and feel at peace in her heart.

In the variety show “Wife’s Romantic Travel,” each female guest sent their husbands a message with three question marks. Gina received an immediate reply from Lang Lang, and happiness shone on her face. Lang Lang explained that he was busy, but still managed to reply promptly.

On the other hand, Hu Ke was feeling low because she hadn’t heard back from Sha Yi yet. After a long wait, she finally received a reply from her husband. When she listened to the voice message, Sha Yi explained why he hadn’t replied earlier, asked if she had any questions, and sweetly said a few words.

This is the sense of security women desire. As adults with responsibilities like work and studies, they understand that there may be situations where messages can’t be answered promptly. Women don’t get upset because you can’t reply instantly; they get upset because of your attitude.

Not being able to reply immediately shouldn’t be brushed off with a casual “What’s wrong?” Instead, like Sha Yi, explain the situation, ask how she is, and that’s a perfect response.

Everyone knows that even when busy, there’s always a few seconds to spare for a voice message. Ignoring a woman, leaving her hanging without a reply, letting her overthink, and not explaining later is very irresponsible behavior.

Sense of security involves other aspects like publicly announcing the relationship, showing affection publicly, and being clear with other women besides your girlfriend.

Be More Tolerant and Understanding of Women’s Delicate Emotions

Women are emotionally sensitive and notice things that many men overlook. This is when men need to be more tolerant and understanding.

In the popular movie “The Ex-Files 3,” viewers felt sorry for Meng Yun and Lin Jia’s long-distance relationship that ended sadly. The ending wasn’t what everyone hoped for, but that’s life, that’s reality.

Lin Jia supported Meng Yun from nothing to success, and they should have been happy. But after Meng Yun achieved some success, he became busier with more social engagements, leaving very little time for Lin Jia.

After an argument, Lin Jia left in a huff, intentionally leaving some things behind and sending the address to Meng Yun, asking him to send them over. His reply was just a simple “Okay.”

Later, Meng Yun met another girl who loved him but felt that his kindness towards her was due to his guilt towards Lin Jia, who made him a better person.

If Meng Yun had just taken a step back, understood Lin Jia’s feelings, and moved forward, the outcome would have been different. When Lin Jia changed her hairstyle due to illness, he could have brought her medicine. When Lin Jia cried in pain, he was discouraged by a man’s shoe at the door…

There were so many chances. His lack of tolerance and understanding led them to become exes. When we were young and reckless, we often insisted on winning arguments, not realizing what we were about to lose.

Growing up doesn’t always mean gaining something; it often means losing something. By the time we truly grow up, it might be too late, and many things would have changed.

Men must understand these two points and give women what they truly desire, making them feel your love more deeply.