The 3 Difficulties for Remarried Couples, Overcome Them for Everlasting Love, Fail and Face Divorce…
Qian Zhongshu once said, “Marriage is like a walled city, with those outside wanting in and those inside wanting out.”
Thinking about it now, that statement isn’t wrong.
Marriage is a gamble for everyone. Win, and you might be happy for a lifetime. Lose, and you’ll suffer. This is especially true for remarried couples, who face various challenges. If they overcome these hurdles, they might grow old together. If not, they might end up parting ways.
Qun Qun, 36 years old this year, had a failed marriage before marrying her current husband. Due to various reasons, they chose to divorce after seven years of marriage.
At that time, they had a daughter. However, due to her limited ability, the daughter stayed with her father after the divorce. The marriage’s impact on Qun Qun was significant. Leaving her child, she felt helpless and even fell into depression for a period.
Many friends advised her to remarry. But when facing marriage again, she was very cautious. She didn’t want to fall again. After the divorce, she focused all her energy on work, saying she was fine being alone if she didn’t find love.
So, she lived a single life for three years. Just when she thought she would grow old alone, she met her current husband. He had also gone through a failed marriage and could understand Qun Qun’s feelings.
They fell in love at first sight, but despite the sweetness of love, they faced many practical issues. Her partner had a son and a daughter and didn’t plan to have more children. Qun Qun regretted this because she longed for a child of her own. But for love, she chose to let go of this desire.
It’s said that being a stepmother is challenging. After remarrying, Qun Qun treated the two children as her own, but no matter how much she gave, the children refused to accept her. They even called her a bad woman to her face.
Hearing this hurt Qun Qun, and she scolded the children a bit. Unexpectedly, the children went to their father to complain. They exaggerated things, making it harder for Qun Qun to explain herself.
The children’s father usually spoiled them, so when he heard their complaints, he naturally blamed Qun Qun. This led to more conflicts and a strained relationship between them.
In the end, their relationship lasted less than a year. Due to the children’s issues, they chose to divorce again. After the divorce, Qun Qun had a profound realization about marriage and vowed never to start a relationship lightly again.
In real life, many people may have encountered similar situations. Remarried couples face many troubles in life. If they can’t overcome them, life will be a mess.
Issues with Children
For remarried couples, children’s problems are sensitive. If you can’t treat your partner’s children as your own, it will lead to many problems and conflicts between spouses.
Children are the core of a family, and few people treat others’ children as their own. Doing so requires great courage.
Issues with Joint Property
Having experienced a failed marriage before, both parties are more cautious in the second marriage. Although feelings can’t be measured with material things, when it comes to practical benefits in life, selfish thoughts may arise. If property issues are not handled well, it can lead to conflicts between spouses.
Issues with Supporting Parents
As the saying goes, filial piety is the top virtue. Respecting and supporting parents is what children should do, but conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law do exist. If not handled well, the family won’t live harmoniously.
Yang Jiang once said, “There are no naturally compatible people, only two hearts that have undergone tempering.”
Life is not as smooth as we imagine. We face various difficulties in real life. Marriage is a gamble for everyone, but the key to happiness often lies in our hands.
If you don’t handle the trivialities of married life well, no matter who you marry, you won’t be happy. A good relationship requires joint effort, especially for remarried couples. A happy marriage is not easy, so learning to handle life’s problems is crucial for a prosperous family and life.
