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After Experiencing Emotional Betrayal, Your Sense of Security Must Be Built on Yourself

Emotions and marriage are essential components of one’s inner sense of security. A happy relationship and marriage will contribute to a person’s emotional stability and satisfaction. So, when a relationship faces betrayal, this sense of security will be shattered, often in a dramatic and abrupt manner. If someone loses their sense of security, they will feel lost, anxious, and restless, constantly feeling uneasy and agitated. Many people, after experiencing betrayal, find themselves unable to focus on anything for a period of time. The impact of betrayal can be so significant that it disrupts their normal life because their inner self is troubled, restless, and always on edge.

December 13, 2024 4 min read

Whose Fault is Betrayal, Definitely the One Betraying the Relationship, Not You who Suffer Betrayal

“Don’t punish yourself for others’ mistakes”—this is a principle everyone understands and accepts. However, when faced with betrayal, many people still fall into a paradox. When it comes to experiencing betrayal in a relationship, whose fault is it—you who suffered betrayal or the one who betrayed you? The answer is crystal clear: it’s definitely the other person’s fault, without a doubt. This is a must in dealing with betrayal. If you can’t even determine whose fault the betrayal is, then it’s impossible to handle the betrayal properly.

November 27, 2024 4 min read

The Dilemma of Betrayal in Relationships: Why Is It So Hard to Let Go?

On a practical and objective level, what causes the difficulty in letting go after emotional betrayal? 1. Reluctance to give up existing benefits: Betrayal, in a way, is a form of possessing a special interest relationship. This possession, though unethical, doesn’t pose much of a psychological barrier if one disregards morals. Without moral constraints, most people would not refuse betrayal because it benefits them psychologically, physically, and emotionally. Due to these existing benefits, they are unwilling to let go and especially not willing to do so voluntarily. The end of a betrayal relationship usually only occurs in two common situations: internal division or when the losses outweigh the gains.

October 20, 2024 3 min read

Encountering Infidelity, It Can Be a New Starting Point in Life

Encountering betrayal in a relationship can indeed affect the course of one’s life, but such impact may not always be negative. While enduring the pain and torment at the moment, many people have actually embarked on a new journey through the baptism of betrayal. Looking at it from a different perspective, without the betrayal, many people might have led a monotonous life, following the same routine every day, seemingly stable but lacking passion and vision for the future. Days passing by in repetition, just waiting to grow old.

October 13, 2024 3 min read

“What Makes a Mistress Better Than a Wife?” Married Men Tell the Truth

Three Miao said, “If love doesn’t fall into the practical aspects of life, such as wearing clothes, eating, sleeping, and counting money, it won’t last long.” Maybe someone will say that these things in life are just small matters. Love can overcome everything, so what’s the big deal about these insignificant things? As long as two people love each other, these things won’t matter. In reality, talking about love without considering life is unrealistic. Otherwise, there wouldn’t be so many people who were once in love but ended up breaking up, and there wouldn’t be those who betrayed their marriages.

October 12, 2024 4 min read

The Unfiltered Voices of Women: Understanding the Dynamics of Extramarital Affairs

Why Do Women Have Extramarital Affairs? Listen to Their Truth! Understanding the Reasons Behind Women’s Infidelity in Marriage Marriage is the union of love and intimacy. If a woman marries a man she loves and leads a happy life, she won’t want to betray him. When a woman has an affair, it’s often because she feels neglected by her husband, thinks he no longer loves her, or is disappointed in the marriage.

August 8, 2024 4 min read

When a Woman Comes Home, These Behaviors Often Mean She’s Seeing Someone Else

There’s an old saying, “Onlookers see more than players.” In this society, when one spouse is seeing someone else, it’s always the outsiders who know first, and the husband or wife is usually the last to find out. These so-called “onlookers” don’t know how to warn the other party to protect themselves, or how to prevent them from getting hurt, so they usually choose to kindly keep it a secret.

June 15, 2024 5 min read

How to Heal the Trauma of Emotional Betrayal

Experiencing emotional betrayal can be incredibly painful. How to heal the trauma left by this emotional wound is a task that every betrayed individual must face head-on, without avoiding it. Healing from emotional trauma is not necessarily tied to marriage. Whether you try to salvage the marriage or firmly decide on a divorce, the pain is inevitable. The healing of this pain is not directly linked to the outcome of the marriage.

June 9, 2024 3 min read

Don’t Treat Emotions as the Only Path to Happiness After Betrayal

Once someone experiences betrayal in a relationship, they start to see things differently. Like how they face the person who hurt them, the meaning of marriage, and what emotions really are. From a certain perspective, the more you learn about these aspects, the more you reshape your inner self. This experience becomes more meaningful. When this meaning surpasses a certain level, the ultimate outcome of the marriage or relationship becomes less important. You’ve already gained what you needed, and that’s sufficient.

February 11, 2024 4 min read