Signs of the End of a Marriage, It’s Just These Two Points, No Mistake

Many things are the straw that breaks the camel’s back.

Sudden events seem fated, but there were signs long ago.

Many couples are on the rocks, just like a song by Wang Fei; their fate has faded, yet they still live under one roof.

There are signs of the end of fate, and some things are better discovered early.

No Longer Caring About Each Other

There’s a poem that goes:

“Why do my eyes often fill with tears? Because I love this land deeply.”

When you care too much about something, you tend to move to the opposite extreme. Sometimes, even joy can bring tears, just as excessive sorrow can lead to laughter.

If you care about something, you don’t want to set it free.

Similarly, in relationships, when one feels the other is too controlling, it becomes exhausting.

Many men in relationships tend to be jealous, thinking that their partner belongs to them, thus restricting their freedom.

These all indicate that you still care about each other, hence these behaviors.

There’s an ancient Chinese saying: “Nothing can obstruct the wind and rain,” because it’s what the heart desires.

If you eliminate many things from your heart, you’ll definitely be unable to move forward.

Just as when I visited my aunt’s house two years ago, it was not the same scene.

At that time, my uncle could have quickly returned home after receiving a call from my aunt, but he simply didn’t care.

So, when I stayed at my aunt’s house for half a month, I hadn’t seen my uncle.

Surprisingly, my aunt didn’t even get angry.

Then, after staying at their place for many days, I realized that many things, just as mentioned in the drama “Ruyi’s Royal Love in the Palace,” are nothing but fleeting.

Qian Zhongshu once said in “Fortress Besieged”: “Marriage is like a fortress, with those outside wanting to get in and those inside wanting to get out.”

Some people have said in recent years that marriage is the grave of love.

Many things in the world cannot withstand the erosion of time and human consumption.

When you no longer care about each other, and when your partner also stops caring about you, the relationship has already drifted far apart, with the possibility of collapse at any time.

Just this February, my uncle and aunt got divorced.

In fact, everything was already predetermined two years ago.

Mutual Defamation and Hurt

There’s an old Chinese saying: “Don’t air dirty laundry in public.”

So, whatever happens between a couple should not be shared with others.

But some people no longer consider their partner as their family, so they like to talk to others about what happened between them.

Some even resort to mutual defamation and hurt through what they say to others.

In this world, maintaining one’s reputation is important. When you expose your partner’s weaknesses and flaws to others, you cause them harm.

If you tell others about your partner’s weaknesses, it damages their reputation.

Just imagine, no normal person would want to live with someone who has no reputation.

When one person starts speaking ill of the other to outsiders, the hurt party, upon finding out, will be extremely saddened, and eventually, the relationship will come to an end.

So, as Song Dandan said in an interview, “If you want a future with your partner, you need to learn to hold your tongue.”

Many people have already crossed the line with their words, so there’s no future with their partner.

Even if a couple has a very poor relationship, if there’s a future, they wouldn’t speak ill of each other to outsiders. They would only speak about each other in their hearts, and they wouldn’t want to hear others’ opinions.

But when outsiders are delighted to hear negative comments about someone from a friend, it means that person no longer loves their partner.

Everything in the world goes through cycles, and there’s a time for everything.

Just as a friend told me a few years ago, everything, just like a glass of milk, has an expiration date.

Many things, whether people or objects, require careful nurturing.

If a couple doesn’t work on their marriage, it will eventually come to an end, and they will lose their fate with each other.

Smart people always recognize signs in a relationship, such as signs of fate coming to an end, and learn to make amends. But selfish people never think about making amends, fearing they might lose something or come out at a loss.

But as one grows older, they will realize that the one who will always be there is their spouse.

Just like a video I saw recently, where an elderly person, tears in their eyes, said:

“You must cherish your spouse, because as you grow old, you will realize that your spouse is the only one who will always be there for you.”