She’s “Scolding” You, But She’s Actually Showing Her Love.
The Subtext is: “We’re Destined to Be Together”
Women and men think differently. If a man has to travel from point A to point B, he’ll choose the shortest route. But a woman might choose to go from A to C, then to D, and finally arrive at point B.
It might seem roundabout, even confusing, but that’s just how women are.
They often want something but won’t say it directly. For example, on holidays, they might want a gift from a man, but if he asks what they want, they’ll usually say no.
But if the man doesn’t get them anything, they’ll be upset and think he doesn’t care about them.
Smart men can see through these little tricks, but “straight” guys might not understand what’s really going on. This can even hurt their relationship.
There are many ways women act in a roundabout way. If they “scold” you like this, they’re actually showing you their love. The subtext is: “We’re destined to be together.”
“You’re So Dumb”
Many men like to call women “dummy” or “silly” in a playful way. These words, even though they seem like insults, actually show a lot of love.
Women feel the same way.
They might even prefer it if men use these words on them. But for couples who haven’t established a relationship yet, they won’t be so affectionate in their daily interactions.
A woman who wants a man to know her feelings might use little gestures to express herself, like having dinner alone with him or giving him a gift.
If the man still doesn’t understand her feelings after all that, she might get frustrated and vent her feelings by saying something like, “You’re so dumb.”
It might seem like she’s complaining about something specific, but she’s really complaining that he hasn’t figured out her feelings yet.
It’s hard for a woman to directly express her love. Many women believe that men should be the ones to make the first move. Otherwise, they might feel like they’re being too forward.
“Be Careful, You’ll Never Find a Wife”
Everyone has flaws, and only those who are close to you will see them. In ordinary relationships, everyone tries to maintain a good image.
Only with close friends can you be yourself and show your true colors.
Maybe the man is a bit “straight,” or maybe he doesn’t know how to take care of others. These kinds of things might make a woman say, “Be careful, you’ll never find a wife.”
It might seem like she’s reminding him to improve these flaws, a friendly piece of advice. But you could also see it as her own requirements or standards for a boyfriend.
If the man can improve these things, he’ll fit the image of the boyfriend she’s looking for. And it’s clear that he’s already entered her heart.
For some women, there’s a hidden meaning behind this phrase: “Besides me, who else would want you?”
Even though the man might have flaws that would scare other women away, the woman who loves him has already blocked them out. It doesn’t matter what he’s like, her love won’t change.
She’s just saying this because she’s afraid of it never working out.
“You’re So Silly”
Being silly is just another way of saying someone is kind and honest. In today’s world, there are many smooth-talking guys, but honest and sincere men are rare.
It seems like, over time, interactions between people have become more about games and less about genuine connection. This is true even in relationships.
Many women are afraid of getting hurt, so they remember this: Never let any man become your whole life. Understand that the more you invest, the more you stand to lose.
So most women, when they meet a man they like, might hide their feelings deep down. They’ll only start to reveal their feelings when they’re sure he’s the right one.
Sometimes, when a man does something silly, a woman might scold him, “You’re so silly.”
If the man is smart, he’ll hear the concern and care behind her words, even though she’s scolding him.
If it’s just a regular friend, the woman would directly express her concern. She wouldn’t use this roundabout way because she’s honest and open.
The more someone tries to hide something, the more obvious it becomes. She’s trying to test the waters, afraid that if she says her true feelings, she might lose her friend. So she’s using this approach. Men, don’t pretend you don’t understand.
Relationships are not a game. Don’t play around. When it comes to love, men should be careful. It’s better to be alone and happy than to be in a bad relationship.
If you love her, cherish her. If you don’t, be honest about it so you don’t hurt her later.
