Secrets to Keeping a Man: Lessons Learned from 30 Years of Marriage by My Mother
My Mother’s 30 Years of Marriage Experience Taught Me: The Best Way to Captivate a Man’s Heart, and It’s Actually Just One Thing
Yang Jiang once said, “True love only happens once in a lifetime, and one heart can only belong to one person.”
Every woman wants to be the only one in a man’s heart, but how can she do that? Each person may have a different answer to this question.
As the saying goes, “different strokes for different folks.”
My parents have been married for 30 years, and to outsiders, they seem like the perfect couple. However, as the saying goes, “every family has its own difficulties,” and no couple can avoid quarrels.
When I was young, my parents would often argue, but after each fight, my mother would act as if nothing had happened, calm and peaceful, doing her own thing.
Because of this, my parents never had any major conflicts. When my mother didn’t get angry, my father would be the first to apologize, and that’s how they maintained their happy life together.
I really admire my mother because she’s very tolerant and has a good temper. Every time she and my father fought, she would still cook a big meal for him, and my father would be ashamed and apologize.
My parents would always show off their love in front of me, and I would often get caught up in their romance.
Although they might have disliked each other at times, they were each other’s only reliance.
My mother once told me, “If a woman wants to captivate a man’s heart, she must first win over his heart.”
Show Him You Care
Yang Jiang said, “If you love someone, you must tell them.”
Human relationships are fragile, and if you don’t maintain them, they will disappear.
When you get used to being cold and distant, one day you’ll find that you’ve lost each other, and it’s too late to say goodbye.
So, in a marriage, if you don’t show your care, your feelings will change, and if a woman can show more care to her husband, he will rely on her more.
Don’t Be Too Calculating
Life is about subtraction, and some people are just less and less. Two people meeting is not easy, and becoming a couple is even more of a blessing, so cherish the people you love and who love you, because life has no second chance.
Once you’re married, you must learn to manage your relationship well and not let petty things cause conflicts.
Don’t be too calculating, and you’ll have more harmony.
Couples will have conflicts and arguments, but when problems arise, the two people must learn to solve them instead of blaming each other.
Not being too calculating is also a way of loving, and when you understand the other person’s perspective, your feelings will become more solid.
Be more tolerant and understanding towards your loved one, and don’t be afraid.
Emotions require effort from both people, not just one person’s willingness, so learn to manage your happiness well, and you’ll gain more beauty.
Never Forget to Improve Yourself
On the road of life, we must get used to anyone’s coldness and warmth, as well as their gradual distance.
Life’s journey is bumpy, and every bit of happiness requires our own creation.
For a woman, marriage is not everything, and if you put all your hopes on one man, your life will eventually become a mess.
Never give up yourself because of a man, because when you give up, your life will become a mess.
As a woman, never belittle yourself for a man, and only when you learn to love yourself will you gain respect and love from a man.
I hope all women can remember this: your happiness is created by yourself, and never give up yourself for someone else, even if no one loves you, learn to love yourself.
Every mother hopes their children can live happily, and for young people, listening to their parents’ opinions can also bring more enlightenment. Marriage is a gamble for each of us, and winning or losing depends on ourselves, so we must learn to manage our relationships well to gain the happiness we want.
For a man, a woman’s understanding and tolerance are especially important.
When a woman understands and tolerates a man, he will love her more deeply.
A woman with high emotional intelligence will never lose her temper, because she knows how to use her gentleness to move a man.
In a relationship, there’s no question of who’s right or wrong, only who doesn’t cherish who, so when two people are together, they must learn to cherish each other, and not wait until it’s too late to regret.
A woman with high emotional intelligence can make a man love her deeply, and the fundamental reason is that she knows how to think from a man’s perspective.
Communicating with such a woman will also make a man feel at ease.
As Lin Huiyin said, “Meeting true love is equivalent to connecting with happiness.”
Every woman wants to gain happiness in marriage, but marriage life is not a fairy tale, and women who are happy in marriage are often those with high emotional intelligence, because every family has its difficulties, and not every woman can gain happiness in marriage.
So I hope all women can maintain their wisdom in marriage, don’t be too humble, and don’t be foolish; being a wise woman will make men love them more.
