Red Flags: When Your Boyfriend Shows These 3 Signs, He’s Definitely a Jerk
A lot of people move away from home to chase their dreams and get the life they want.
Living on your own is hard. It’s tough to deal with the loneliness and boredom.
When you get home from work, it’s cold and empty. You wish there was a warm meal waiting for you and someone you love at the table.
Even if that’s not there, you just want someone to talk to, someone who cares about you, to make this strange city feel a little bit nicer.
So, when you meet someone you like and things get serious, you might jump into living together.
But not everyone you meet is a good person. Some people just want to play with your emotions. If your boyfriend starts doing these three things after you move in together, he’s definitely a jerk.
He’s Always Late Getting Home
Lots of people work late to get ahead. It’s true. But most companies don’t make their employees work late every single night.
Even people who want to be super successful can’t handle that kind of workload. Their bodies won’t let them.
So, if it’s not work, what else is keeping him out late? He’s out having fun.
They say the key to a long relationship is giving each other space. But that doesn’t mean you don’t care.
It’s okay for your boyfriend to hang out with friends sometimes. But if he’s doing it all the time, it’s suspicious.
Even friends don’t hang out every night. Especially once you’re out in the real world, you’re busy with work and life. You just don’t have the time to party all the time.
Plus, going out costs money. Once or twice is fine, but if he’s doing it all the time, a regular guy can’t afford it.
So, if he’s always late getting home, he’s probably out with other people. And he’s probably not just hanging out with his friends. He’s hanging out with girls.
He’s already got a girlfriend, but he’s still flirting with other girls. It’s pretty obvious what he’s up to.
He Doesn’t Do Any Chores
A lot of people think it’s okay for men not to do chores. In traditional families, men work outside the home and women take care of the house.
But we’re in the 21st century now. Things have changed a lot. Women can do anything men can do. And in a lot of families, women are bringing in money too.
So, the idea of who does what around the house is outdated. It’s more about who has time. And in a lot of couples, the man will do most of the chores because he feels bad that his wife works so hard.
It’s probably not going to be like this everywhere, but if your boyfriend just sits back and lets you do everything, even after you ask him to help, it means he doesn’t care about you. He’s not worth your time.
You need to get out of this relationship. You can see how things will be in the future. Even if you get married, you’ll have problems.
Sometimes women are too nice, too generous, and too capable. After a while, he’ll think it’s normal for you to do everything. And if you’re struggling, crying, or tired, he won’t care.
He’s Always Calculating
There’s an old saying: “You can’t get poor from eating or wearing clothes, but you can get poor from not being smart with your money.” Even today, there’s some truth to that. If you only have a certain amount of money, you have to be careful with it. You need to save as much as possible.
So, it’s understandable that people are careful with their money. And women are sometimes better at managing money than men. But there are different ways to be careful with your money.
Some guys start acting like your money is theirs even when you’re just dating. They start planning how to spend your money, without even thinking about how you feel.
Remember, even if you get married, your money is still yours before you get married. It has nothing to do with him.
But if he’s already trying to control your money before you’re even married, it shows how much he cares about money.
It’s true that everyone has flaws, both men and women. Whether you stay together depends on if you’re both willing to change for each other.
Or, if his flaws are things you can’t live with.
There’s no such thing as a perfect person or a perfect relationship. You have to know what you want. If you get what you want, you’ll lose something else. If you want everything, you’ll get nothing.
