Those Who Seek Pleasure in Extramarital Affairs Simply Do Not Understand the True Meaning of…
Everyone, when they first got married, thought that marriage should bring happiness. However, some later realized that the best marriages are at most a mix of happiness and hard work.
Why wouldn’t marriage be hard? Hardship is, in fact, the essence of marriage.
When marriage leads to a family, family implies responsibility, and taking on that responsibility is bound to be tough. Marriages that ultimately turn from hard to painful are essentially just ways of shirking and avoiding responsibility.
From providing for the elderly to raising children, dealing with daily necessities, and the trivialities of family life, every aspect of marriage and family involves some form of hardship.
Marriage and family life inevitably come with trivialities, worries, and even conflicts and arguments. When emotions become dull and marriage and family life become filled with hardship and distress, many people stray. They believe this is not the outcome they wanted, feel unsatisfied in their marriage, blame their partner for it, and at that moment, betrayal and hurt become justifiable in their minds.
Why do so many people indulge in extramarital affairs and believe that the outside world is where happiness lies; that those outside of marriage are the right ones; that emotions outside of marriage are the true feelings…
The answer is simple: it’s precisely because it’s an extramarital affair, involving someone outside of marriage means they don’t have to face or endure the inherent hardship of marriage, nor do they have to bear the responsibilities that come with marriage.
When one person in a marriage chooses to escape, essentially leaving all the responsibilities of maintaining the marriage and family to the other, that person ends up bearing both the hardship and the pain.
Marriage and family are a unit; a good marriage means sharing burdens, while a bad marriage involves shifting blame. Assessing whether someone can bring you happiness, whether they have the ability to build a good marriage and family, and similar questions are not actually that difficult—many people have already given answers through their actions.
Once such an answer is given, you must realize that expecting such a person to adjust and change is actually quite difficult. So, if you continue living with such a person, the likelihood of them bringing you happiness is very slim.
If they can’t bring you happiness, then you must strive for happiness on your own.
After spending time in a relationship, many people realize that the other person cannot bring them happiness. Faced with the same situation, people make different choices: some continue to rely on the other, while others learn to rely on themselves.
Those who rely on the other still hope for happiness from them, always trying to teach and adjust the other, but the end result is almost always in vain. The sooner you can see the truth, the sooner you can learn to rely on yourself, the more likely you are to regain your happiness.
Even if you can rely on others, your inner self may not be completely at ease, especially after experiencing betrayal and hurt; but if you can rely on yourself, then your sense of happiness will be solid, your inner self secure. “Dependency” is actually the cornerstone of happiness in life. If your happiness relies on others, once they take it away, your happiness will crumble; only by relying on yourself can you have a stable and secure happiness throughout your life.
Finding someone to rely on is good fortune;
Becoming someone who relies on yourself is your mission.
