Is a Girl’s First Time Really That Important?
The other day, I saw a question online: How important is a girl’s first time to you? The answers can be boiled down to two kinds: important and not important.
Then I saw one answer that left a deep impression on me: “I’m not into the virgin complex, but a while ago, a middle school classmate I used to chat with often told me that she wasn’t a virgin, and I rarely talked to her after that.”
In the end, many people still attach great importance to a girl’s first time. They may say it’s not important, but subconsciously, they still think it’s a particularly disgraceful thing not to have one’s first time.
It’s not just guys who think this way, even girls themselves feel incomplete without their first time and undeserving of their partner.
Some girls feel that once they’ve had their first time, their partner will be with them for life, and without it, they won’t even be able to look their partner in the eye.
But, to be honest, is the first time really that sacred?
Don’t try to keep someone who doesn’t love you with your first time.
Someone who loves you will find your coquettishness endearing, your requests a sign of trust, and even when you’re angry, he’ll find it cute. Someone who doesn’t love you won’t be moved even if you hand him the world.
Trying to give your first time to him, thinking it’s beautiful, is just foolish in his eyes.
Cathy and Robert have been together for two years and three months. But a few days ago, Robert suddenly suggested breaking up, and no matter how Cathy tried to salvage the relationship, Robert remained indifferent. To keep Robert, she gave him her first time.
But unexpectedly, after they were intimate, Robert became even more resolute about leaving.
Actually, Robert had stopped loving Cathy long ago, but Cathy refused to admit it. She thought that by giving him the most precious thing a woman has, he would be moved and come back to her. But it only moved her.
Love can make people act recklessly, turning fools into lunatics, but this is not a good kind of love. Any emotion that requires an exchange is not love.
Moreover, the first time is not so sacred. It may not necessarily help you keep your loved one and could make the other person look down on you. Even if you keep someone, you won’t keep their heart. So why bother?
Let someone who doesn’t love you go. Don’t sacrifice your precious self to gamble on your future; it’s not worth it.
The person who wants to stay with you for life won’t be driven away no matter what. And the person who wants to leave won’t look at you no matter how much you beg him.
Many times, we attach too much importance to the first night. We think that as long as we have the first night, we have the capital to make the other person love us. If we don’t, we owe the other person and don’t deserve them.
In “Ode to Joy”, after being deceived by a scumbag, Yvonne becomes self-conscious after losing her first time. When she was dating David, she always felt sorry for him.
Yvonne loved David so much, so humbly, so lowly. Losing her first time also made her lose her confidence.
Even if David despised her and wanted to break up with her, she still felt it was her fault and didn’t want anyone to speak ill of David.
More than Yvonne’s lack of confidence, it’s that love didn’t give Yvonne enough security.
Whether you’re deserving or not has nothing to do with whether you’ve been with someone else. A girl with good character has countless merits and deserves to be treated tenderly.
Yvonne has many shining points, she’s pretty, lively, and considerate… David didn’t see any of these. He broke up with her when he wanted to, and came back when he wanted to.
In the end, he didn’t care about her, but other things.
Girl, drop this mental burden, you’re not inferior. You have your merits, and someone who understands them will treasure you. Why would they bring up the first time and hurt you again and again?
You don’t owe anyone anything, you just believed someone else and gave your sincerity wrongly. Why should you carry what you think is a “stain” for your whole life? That way, you’ll never be happy.
The first time is important, but the future is more important. Life is long, so don’t make yourself too sad.
A girl doesn’t need to feel inferior for losing her first time, and a guy doesn’t need to care too much about whether a girl is a virgin. When two people are in love, it’s all about their emotions.
If the emotions are there, the two will naturally last. If the emotions are not there, nothing else matters.
Don’t use your first time to prove your love. You think the other person will be moved, but in his eyes, it’s just a game.
Save your first time for the right person, that’s what’s beautiful. Otherwise, it’s just hurtful.
You should know that someone who can spend the first night with you may not necessarily spend a lifetime with you. Not everyone will cherish it, and not everyone can bear the responsibility after the first time.
So when you give your first time, be cautious and see the other person clearly.
Before you meet the right person, make sure to protect yourself. Trust that the right person will come, it’s just a matter of time.
If you accidentally lose your first time, you can cry all night, get drunk, but never deny yourself, or even refuse new emotions.
The first time is important, but it doesn’t represent everything about you.
So don’t compromise in love just because you’ve lost your first time; it’s completely unnecessary. Accept the other person’s affection openly, and you’re still deserving of anyone.
Many times, we overly fret about certain issues and forget about more important and meaningful things.
The first time being sacred or not isn’t that important; what’s important is meeting the right person and holding hands for life. If he loves you and you love him, that’s enough.
