People Who Stay Single for a Long Time Do It by Choice

After starting work, I rarely see well-off, comfortable, and ambitious guys staying single. If they do, it’s usually because they want to.

In this game of pursuit, boys have always been the ones in control. In high school, most boys were already crushing on girls, and vice versa. But back then, everyone was focused on the pretty, attractive, and high-achieving boys and girls.

In everyone’s dreams, there are goddesses and gods, and you’ll find that they are also goddesses and gods to those around you.

College quickly transforms girls, while guys tend to gain weight. Whenever younger students asked if I wanted to join the student union, I always answered without hesitation, “Of course, you should join with the pure intention of finding a partner.”

Most of the younger guys would be taken by older girls who were a year ahead. Why just a year? Once they started dating, they’d leave the student union together. Why would there be any older girls left?

I still remember a lovely and beautiful girl who joined the student union with me. As many guys can attest, she was the kind of girl you’d never forget after just one look, and she was quickly taken by the vice president of the student union.

This advice isn’t for the girls but for the guys. In college, everyone matures a lot, and girls, in particular, like guys who can lead and make them feel secure. A vice president can create an illusion of power.

Most college presidents and ministers have a bad reputation for good reason—they often steal the hearts of younger students.

Even though girls become more beautiful in college, pretty, talented, and likable girls are still rare. Most of the top-quality resources are quickly taken if the girl isn’t too focused on studying or doesn’t have excessively high standards.

So, for college students, if you’re not ready, it’s okay not to date. In four years, you can learn to love others, even if it’s just loving your roommate or loving your country. If you can balance school and life, then you should seize the opportunity.

I understand the hearts of pretty girls very well. It’s partly because I’m attentive to detail, and partly because I often communicate with my cousins, who were once the campus’s flowers. I can’t really say they were campus beauties, as there were many beautiful girls in college.

They told me that there wasn’t always someone chasing after them, but they were often surrounded by boys when they entered a new environment, such as high school, college, or starting a job.

Comfortable and easy-going guys are generally liked, and girls are willing to give them a chance. If you join a social group, you can start by adding friends. If your profile picture is attractive and you’re active, girls will notice you. If you hit it off, why not ask her out?

My cousin once told me that she could only chat with a guy she hadn’t met for 1–2 weeks, even if he was very handsome. She said she wouldn’t chat for more than 2 weeks. Everyone’s busy with school and work, so chatting too much is like raising an electronic pet. If you hit it off, why not ask her to see a movie, have dinner, or visit an exhibition?

If you ask a girl out 5 days to a week in advance, and she likes you, she’ll definitely accept. If she has something else going on, you can try again. If she still refuses, sorry, but she’s probably not that into you. Of course, you’ll come up with many excuses, but you’re mostly trying to comfort yourself.

Those who are favored often become complacent, and I think that the world doesn’t have very high expectations for guys. After all, you have more time for self-improvement. There’s a saying that goes, “Men are very loyal creatures; they always love girls aged 18–24.” There’s always someone new waiting for you. It’s normal to be rejected, so can you handle it?

In this pursuit game, even though boys hold the power of pursuit, the control has always been in the hands of the girls. For those with limited dating experience, in my eyes, that’s a negative mark.

Guys with little experience tend to be passive and indecisive, always thinking that someone else might be better, not knowing what they really want.

Girls with little experience tend to be difficult and hard to please. They don’t know how to control the pace, and being with them can be exhausting.

I really admire couples whose first love is successful. Despite research showing that their happiness index after marriage is slightly lower than others’, I think they understood what love and cherishing meant when they were young.

I’ve asked almost all the couples who married before 28 what made them settle down so early.

Guys often say, “She’s gentle and understands me.” Girls always say, “He’s ambitious, and I feel like we have a future together. Plus, he’s really good to me.”

Some people fall in love a little slower, and some a little faster. After reading this article, if the first person that comes to mind makes you smile, then yes, you’ve fallen for them. So why not ask them out, even if it’s for no particular reason?

In conclusion, I wish everyone seeking love finds happiness.