People Who Brush You Off Don’t Love You Enough, Not That They Don’t Love You
In relationships, many people fear being brushed off by their partners because they interpret it as a lack of love.
People who truly love each other always have endless words to say.
I remember a past relationship when I was young:
Back then, phone calls weren’t as common, and my boyfriend and I were in a long-distance relationship.
In those days, being in a relationship was often ridiculed, so my boyfriend would call me quietly late at night.
Since I didn’t have a phone, I had to go to the public phone at school to answer his calls.
Every night, my boyfriend would call me at 11:30, and we would talk until late.
I was studying in the South, and my boyfriend was studying in the North.
Regardless of whether it was summer or winter, he would always call me.
After December, the weather up North would get very cold, with snow and ice.
The public phone in the courtyard had no shelter, so holding the phone was very cold. Every time we talked in winter, I felt cold, but he said he wasn’t.
His actions showed that he loved me. Despite the cold, he never brushed me off and continued talking to me.
It was always me who had to remind him to go back.
Eventually, due to various reasons, we broke up. When I met my second boyfriend, I realized he didn’t love me as much.
Because every time we talked, even when he was with me, he would be busy with something else.
Sometimes I would think of my ex and feel that he was the one who truly loved me. I missed those times.
Many believed that because my current boyfriend wasn’t attentive, I longed for my ex.
I admit that.
I married my current boyfriend, and many years have passed. I still reminisce about the days with my ex.
Although I think it’s wrong, when you compare your ex with your current partner and find the former better, it’s easy to long for them.
But looking back, time has passed, and he will never come back.
It’s not that the other person is busy, you’re just lying to yourself.
I had a colleague who liked a man.
Whenever they chatted, his responses always made her feel awkward.
Sometimes she would show me their chat, asking me how to reply. The man would often respond with simple phrases like “Hmm” or “Oh.”
But when she didn’t contact him, he would call her.
Eventually, they decided to be together, and everyone wished them well.
However, even after getting together, he still brushed her off.
Sometimes she would get upset, but he would claim to be busy.
Maybe he thought she was suitable for him, a gentle and kind girl, so he believed they would be happy together.
It’s not that he didn’t like her much, but he did like her to some extent.
If a man truly loves a woman, he wouldn’t brush her off. But if he doesn’t love her, he might not even bother to do so and simply ignore her.
If a man responds to a woman’s messages, it means he still cares about her, just not deeply enough.
Relationships need nurturing.
When I was very young, I had an experience.
One year, my dad went on a business trip due to work.
Little did we know, he would be away for a whole year. When he returned, my younger brother didn’t recognize him.
People say that bonds of love and family are natural and remain even after long separations.
But my brother’s reaction surprised us all.
In reality, whether it’s family love, romantic love, or friendship, they all require nurturing.
Just like two close friends. If they don’t keep in touch for years, they might feel distant when they meet again.
Even if someone doesn’t love you enough and brushes you off at first, being together every day will make them unable to leave you.
Sometimes, when we initially love someone, it may be impulsive, but over time, it becomes a habit.
When someone is used to having you around, their feelings for you might grow stronger. If one day they suddenly leave, you’ll feel uncomfortable.
Someone once told me:
“If you feel something for a man, you can choose to be with him.”
Even if you don’t deeply love him, if you have feelings for him, you can still choose to be with him.
In today’s society, where meeting someone you truly love is rare, meeting someone you have feelings for is already a blessing.
So, when you find someone you have feelings for, and they feel the same, they might brush you off at times because they don’t love you enough.
But you can take the opportunity to nurture the relationship. If you let this person go, you might need a long time to find someone you have feelings for again.
If someone brushes you off, don’t get angry right away. It’s not that they don’t love you, they just don’t love you enough.
What you need to do is nurture the relationship, improve yourself, and become more charming to attract them.
