May You Meet Your Soulmate in This Life

We often find ourselves in certain situations but never truly pay attention to them—especially when it comes to emotions and marriage.

• What is love? What is marriage?
• What kind of love and marriage are we in?
• What kind of love and marriage do we hope for?

These are probably questions we have never really asked ourselves or made efforts for our own happiness in love and marriage.

When we are hurt in a relationship, where do we focus our attention? It’s crucial—many people remain trapped in a relationship because they overlook taking charge of their own lives and destinies, relying all their hopes on another person.

While the pain may be caused by others, happiness definitely needs to be pursued by oneself. That’s the truth.

Who doesn’t hope for a happy relationship and marriage? Yet, why are there still so many unhappy relationships and marriages in reality? It’s not because people don’t want to be happy, but because they don’t know how to seek their own happiness—this is both a matter of mindset and action.

If the mindset is wrong, the more effort you put in, the more you suffer. Just like those who know the other person is hopeless but still see themselves as saviors trying to “save” them.

If actions are wrong, whether it’s being passive and leaving everything to fate, or trying to indirectly change one’s fate, it won’t be enough to alter one’s destiny.

In the end, all problems can be summed up in two points:

1. Having the right understanding of this world, including relationships and marriage, as well as people with emotional connections, but most importantly, understanding oneself.

How do you perceive love? What kind of love do you need? What efforts are you willing to make for the love you desire? Many people can’t find happiness in love because they are unclear about what kind of love can make them happy—although they are very clear about what kind of love can bring them pain.

Therefore, for this world, you must interpret it and have your own interpretation.

2. Effort—no need for further explanation, it’s like “if you need to be persuaded to make money, then you deserve to be poor.”

If you don’t make an effort, let alone strive for happiness, even relieving current pain is just a luxury. In reality, many people hope that “others’ efforts” will make them happy or rely on the grace of God to make them happy—even if a perfect match falls from the sky, you might not be able to catch it, and that person may not necessarily be right for you.

So, just keep striving, leave the rest to fate, as everything in this world follows fate.

Relationships always face various tests and challenges, not always sweet from start to finish. What sustains a relationship from beginning to end is the mutual “certainty”!

Therefore, you should understand that “certainty” is the only key to a happy relationship. Without this key, everything is in vain. Many of us expect a beautiful relationship but are confined by various worldly constraints, choosing to continue in helplessness…

No one dares to assert that the current state of their marriage is eternal, whether enjoying happiness or enduring pain. No one can absolutely control a relationship that requires the joint efforts of two people, so at any time, in any state, everyone should make their own efforts and take responsibility—focus on yourself, not the other person; rely on yourself, not on others.

Lastly, I wish that everyone can meet their soulmate, especially those who have experienced relationship pain. Your future lies within your present state of mind.