Love vs. Reality: The Test of Marriage
Sukhomlinov once said, “True love not only requires love, but also demands insight into each other’s inner world.”
When it comes to love, we all make different choices, but marriage is a big gamble, so we should consider it carefully. Only when love meets reality can you truly feel if a man is sincere towards you.
Leila and John met on a dating platform. Leila was initially attracted by John’s humor. They hit it off online and had a good impression when they met in person. After a year of dating, Leila felt it was time to get married.
But before marriage, they had many topics to discuss.
Before the wedding, the man hesitated. One day, he suddenly said to Leila, “If you agree to go Dutch after marriage, I’ll marry you.”
Leila was surprised to hear this. She didn’t expect such a request from him. Instead of arguing, she laid out three conditions that left him speechless.
Leila said, “I can agree to go Dutch after marriage, but you must also agree to three conditions before marriage. My first condition is, if we split expenses, you shouldn’t expect me to take care of your parents. Our lives will be separate.
Taking care of your parents is not my responsibility. Whether they are sick or need help, it’s not my concern. I have my own life and parents to take care of. So, I won’t be responsible for your parents.
Secondly, regarding children’s education after marriage, if we have kids, someone needs to take care of them. Since we’re going Dutch and I need to work to support us, if there’s no one to care for the children, I won’t have them. You also need to create a good educational environment for them.
Thirdly, since we’re going Dutch, I need to take care of my parents too. After marriage, either you move in with us or my parents move in with us. If you can agree to these three conditions, I’ll marry you.”
After hearing Leila’s conditions, the man was speechless and eventually refused, saying her demands were too harsh. Leila chose to give up on marriage because she knew he wasn’t worth it.
He sweet-talked her before marriage, but changed afterward. This wasn’t the marriage she wanted, so she decided to break up. She deleted and blocked him because she didn’t want to waste time on such a person.
Encountering such bizarre events is not uncommon in real life.
Real life tests a man more. Before marriage, be clear about your thoughts. If the other person accepts, then it can be a happy marriage.
If even the basic requirements can’t be met, how can you expect a happy married life? To know if a man is trustworthy, focus on two things.
Post-Marriage Lifestyle
“The meaning of love is to help each other grow, while also growing yourself.”
Some men sweet-talk and make promises before marriage, but change afterward. If a man asks you to give up your career, he should be able to support you financially. Don’t lose yourself in marriage.
Attitude Towards Money
While a man spending on you doesn’t prove love, a man unwilling to spend on you doesn’t love you.
If a man hesitates to discuss money with you, he doesn’t love you. A man who loves you will strive to give you a better life, while one who doesn’t will harm you for selfish reasons.
Ibsen once said, “Marriage is a test of life.”
Marriage is a big gamble. Be cautious when choosing a marriage. The marriage you choose determines your life. Don’t rush into marriage or love due to temporary impulses. Before committing, weigh the pros and cons. Find a man who loves you, and your life will be happier. Marriage is a bigger test for a man. If he can’t even give you basic love, marrying him won’t bring you happiness.
