Life Goes On, Feelings Don’t Come Back
When a relationship ends, the best way is to simply walk away, preserving your dignity and self-worth. Any attempt to cling on or plead will only make you appear weaker. You must realize that weakness won’t make the other person have a change of heart. In the world of relationships, there’s no sympathy for the weak.
Turning around, letting go without looking back is a display of stubborn self-respect and taking responsibility for your feelings. Always remember, you determine the value of your feelings. Those who don’t appreciate you are not worth your efforts, no matter how much you give.
Yes, it’s natural to feel sad, hurt, and reluctant to let go. These are the hardships you must bear after a relationship ends. It’s like leaving your parents to venture out alone. You will have to face life’s challenges alone, rather than expecting constant care like a baby in a cradle.
If no one loves you, learn to love yourself. If no one embraces you, hug yourself. If no one provides warmth and light, be your own sunshine.
This is growth. This is the price of love.
In the long journey of life, feelings are not a necessity but merely a seasoning. Some relationships bring sweetness, while others bring bitterness. Unfortunately, you picked the latter. Those who experience sweetness may not understand bitterness, and vice versa. You and them just tasted different flavors.
Don’t place too much importance on feelings. This is a lesson learned by those who have been through emotional trauma. Not because feelings are unimportant or you don’t desire a good relationship, but the journey has been too tough, leaving scars that make you wary and insecure. The pain of those wounds is unbearable for many, leading them to keep their distance. I may envy others’ relationship happiness, but I will eventually find contentment in being alone.
Life goes on, feelings don’t come back. Once a relationship is over, no matter how hard you try to salvage it, it’s unlikely to return. Don’t think you possess the power to resurrect dead feelings. Even if you did, you would realize that feelings that can’t last from start to finish, even if revived, are not the same as before.
So, when a relationship fades, bid farewell calmly. Even if you can’t smile, don’t let tears flow, making yourself appear pitiful. Leave with dignity. Years later, when you look back, you won’t regret being immature, obsessed, or even pathetic.
You can live without anything the world lacks, including feelings. You can still live well. In a way, your dependency on feelings doesn’t compare to your daily toothpaste brand or shower gel.
It’s not the feelings that make you despair or reluctant to let go, it’s the traps and illusions you set for yourself by attaching too much importance to them. Look at it from a different perspective, haven’t you realized that your feelings towards them don’t count for much?
Don’t be foolish. While you cling on, they may have already moved on. Don’t torture yourself.
Every day is a new beginning in life. If you’re willing, try giving yourself a symbolic farewell. Burn all your old diaries, delete all traces of them, and maybe the world will look different when you wake up.
Those who can say goodbye to the past have the chance to embrace the future.
