Let Go, Don’t Love Anymore, It’s Over

What does love mean to you? I think it’s a question worth pondering for each of us. Not long ago, a reader from our website sent me a letter, and this is what she wrote:

My boyfriend and I have known each other for five years. We were college classmates, and after graduation, he went abroad for further studies, while I stayed in the country to work. Because of the distance, our communication became less and less, but we had planned to get married when he returned.

Every year, I would write him a letter by hand, hoping he could see how much I cared about him. At first, our feelings for each other were quite stable.

However, as time went by, I realized our feelings had undergone a significant change. His attitude towards me became more and more casual, and once, due to emotional conflicts, we had a big fight. He even suggested breaking up, which made me very unhappy. So, I flew to see him, hoping to salvage our relationship.

After that, our relationship seemed to stabilize, but we still couldn’t overcome the obstacles of time and distance. Later, we didn’t break up, but we lost contact. I initially wanted to hold on, but I knew that if only I was the one holding on, it would be pointless. That time, I decided to let go, which was also a kind of self-respect.

Zhang Ailing once said, “If it’s meant to be, we’ll meet again.”

Sometimes, due to temporary impulses, we might miss out on various opportunities, but those who truly leave you are because they don’t love you enough. If someone really loves you, they will come back to you. If not, you should learn to let go.

There will always be someone who teaches you to grow up, but the method might not be worth your gratitude. In the world of emotions, we will face various problems, and sometimes, we might get hurt. However, after experiencing a relationship, you will become exceptionally mature.

There will always be someone who brings you growth. When facing those who have hurt us, we might not be able to forgive, but we can learn to let go. When facing those who don’t deserve our love, we must be brave enough to say no. Only then can you reduce the harm and gain more happiness in your emotional life.

Learn to Let Go

What’s your attitude towards love? Each person will have their own answer, but I want to say that when we’re young, we might love recklessly, but as we mature, we learn to let go. Because in the end, what we want is someone to eat dinner with us.

Emotional life is full of regrets, but when facing emotional regrets, what we should do most is learn to let go. On the road of life, we will encounter various difficulties, but when we face difficulties, we must learn to persevere. Emotions shouldn’t become the stumbling block in our lives; they should be our driving force.

It’s often said that nine out of ten love stories end in tragedy, and it’s not entirely wrong. When we face love, we should learn to broaden our minds, because those who love you will always love you no matter what you become, but for those who don’t love you, no matter how much you change, it means nothing to them.

Therefore, those who truly leave you are because they don’t love you enough. When facing emotional torture, what we should do most is to stabilize our emotions. If you’re too sad, your emotions will get hurt in the end. What is love?

This question is worth pondering for each of us. When we miss out on a relationship, learning to let go is the best way to settle with each other.

People are often strange. When they have something, they don’t cherish it, and when they lose it, they regret it. But life doesn’t have a regret pill to take. Some people might miss out on opportunities forever, and the world of emotions is originally complex. You might not get the one you like, and the one you get might not cherish you. When you’re together, you might doubt each other, and when you lose each other, you’ll miss each other. This is the self-contradiction people have in their emotional lives.

So, when facing love, if you can love well, then you should learn to love well. If you can’t be together, then you should learn to let go, because life always moves forward. If you don’t understand this principle, life will be unhappy.

Love the Right Person

People often realize what they’ve missed only later in life. In the world of emotions, everyone might have made mistakes because of love. Many people choose to compromise, thinking that compromise can get them everything, but they don’t know that this kind of thinking will only make them sink deeper.

Emotions are only valuable when given to the right person. If you give them to the wrong person, they become worthless. Life is not easy for anyone, and emotions are the same. The right person will heal you, while the wrong person will only consume you. This world doesn’t have perfect love, and love often requires mutual grinding.

So, don’t expect someone to love you unconditionally. Love also requires equal exchange. There are many helplessness in the world of emotions, but we should give our time to the right person. If you give your emotions to the wrong person, it will only make your life a mess.

Emotions aren’t about the more you give, the more you’ll get in return. Sometimes, the more you give, the more the other person will take you for granted. All the hardships you’ve faced in your emotional life are because this person doesn’t love you enough, which is why they have a casual attitude towards you. Only when you love the right person will your efforts have meaning.

Love is full of sweetness, sourness, bitterness, and spiciness. Only those who truly understand love can gain the happiness they want.

Love also has regrets, because life is not a movie, and once you miss out, it’s gone.

So, I hope each of us can love well when we can, and learn to let go when we lose.