Is He Really Into You or Just Faking It? It’s Not That Hard to Tell
Liu Yu once said something about love:
Compared to the women I know, men are always more able to fall in love with a “laid-back” attitude. Women, on the other hand, are always in love with an attitude that makes you think of “blood and thunder,” like they’re ready to die for love, jump into a fire, and go down with the ship. They’re in love with a grand, glorious death.
I agree. Often, love is just a way for men to add some color to their lives, but for women, it’s a much more cautious approach. Because when women think about love, they think about marriage, they think about their future.
Men and women have different perspectives, so women tend to feel insecure in love. Do they really love me, or are they just stringing me along? Are they worth my devotion?
It’s understandable that women think this way. They’re not starting from the same place, so they naturally want different outcomes. But it’s not that hard to tell if a man really loves you. Just look for these signs.
Talking About Money
The word “money” is something many people avoid talking about, especially young couples. They think it makes them look materialistic, vain, or even unromantic.
But let’s be real. Every single day of our lives, from food and shelter to basic necessities, nothing is possible without money.
If you’re building your love on a foundation of castles in the clouds, and you think love alone is enough to survive, then you can avoid talking about money. No one will think it’s inappropriate.
But we’re all just ordinary people. We need to eat, we need to wear clothes, and we need to live comfortably. So love without talking about money is unlikely to last.
Sanmao said, “If love doesn’t touch on the realities of life—clothes, food, sleep, and money—it won’t last.”
Just look at all the lovesick couples around you. They’re sweet and loving when they’re dating, but how many of them don’t argue about money when it comes time to get married?
My friend Debby , saying she’d been living with her boyfriend for almost three years. They were about to get married, but they were stuck in a stalemate over the wedding house and dowry.
Her boyfriend said she was materialistic and that their love wasn’t worth that much money. He insisted that her family was selling her. They couldn’t agree, and Debby, in anger, broke up with him.
But just three months later, her boyfriend married a woman he met on a blind date. Apparently, he paid a dowry of $150,000. But Debby had only asked for $80,000, which was still less than the average in their area.
Debby asked, “Why was he willing to pay $150,000 for another woman, but not $80,000 for me?”
There’s really no need to explain. It just means you weren’t worth even $80,000 to him. He wasn’t really in love with you. Everything you did for him was just expected.
Does that mean he’ll be in love with the woman he paid $150,000 for? Not necessarily. But he will definitely try to make this marriage work because he spent so much money on it.
So, when you’re dating, don’t be afraid to talk about money and hurt your feelings. The worst thing is to avoid talking about money and then have it blow up in your face later. That’s when you’ll really regret it.
Spending Time Together
They say spending time together is the most heartfelt confession.
But in many relationships, it’s not hard to see that things are intense and passionate at the beginning. The couple feels like they’re attached at the hip, spending 24 hours a day together.
As the relationship becomes more stable, women start complaining that their boyfriends don’t know how to treat them like princesses. They can never find time for them. When they ask him out, he’s either playing video games or working late. Even when they go out with friends, he says he can’t bring “family.”
Women panic when they see this. They think their boyfriends are up to something. They start snooping through their phones and trying to figure out what’s going on in their heads.
But for most men, it’s not that they’re cheating. It’s just that they don’t think they need to focus all their energy on love. For them, love is just a garnish. If it gets too intense, they want to run away.
What kind of man really puts you first?
Some people say that to see if a man truly loves you, you need to see if he’s still caring and attentive when he’s successful.
A man who loves you doesn’t have to be a 24/7 boyfriend. But he will make time for you, especially when you’re feeling down or sick. He’ll do everything he can to cheer you up.
He won’t tell you to “drink some water” over the phone. He’ll actually take you to the hospital, or he’ll bring you medicine and make sure you take it.
Those guys who are always too busy are either taking you for granted or they don’t care about the relationship. If you’re not the type of woman who’s always “bothering” men, a man who loves you will put your feelings first.
If a man never has time for you, there’s only one explanation: he just doesn’t have time for you.
Planning for the Future
Men are usually rational. Even if they’re in love, they rarely lose their heads. They know that romance isn’t enough. To survive, you need bread. Reality is reality.
If a man only talks to you about love and never about real life, if he doesn’t introduce you to his friends and family, or talk about the future, then he’s probably just “dating” you. He hasn’t thought about marrying you.
A man who truly loves you will be responsible. He’ll think about your life together as soon as you start dating, and he’ll start planning for your future.
You’ll be part of his life plan, and he’ll share his ideas with you. He won’t make you feel insecure and guess what he’s thinking, and he won’t make you wait endlessly.
This is the kind of man you can trust. Those men who make empty promises and never follow through, those are the ones you need to walk away from.
Enya said, “Everything that feels like hard work is forcing it. True love makes you happy. If you’re feeling pain, you’ve made a mistake. You need to end it and start over.”
It’s really not that hard to tell if a man is being genuine or faking it.
But many women in love blind themselves. They pretend not to see the flaws in their partners, and they intentionally ignore the feelings that make them uncomfortable.
But deceiving yourself won’t bring you happiness. If you’re with someone and you don’t see these signs, it just means one thing: he’s not the right guy for you.
Women, you need to open your eyes when it comes to love. After all, most people want to find a partner they can stay with forever.
So, observing whether a man is genuine is about taking responsibility for your own life.
