In the Later Half of a Woman’s Life, It’s Not About Marriage, But About These 3 “Trump Cards”
Older generations often say that no matter how strong a woman is, she will eventually get married, and it’s better to marry a good husband than to do well in her career.
Being able to hold hands with the one you love for a lifetime and live worry-free in marriage is indeed the dream of many women. But life is not a fairy tale, and happiness is not always easily obtained.
In the old days, women had little control over their fate and could only hope for a good marriage. If they encountered unreliable men, they could suffer for a lifetime.
Even modern women may make mistakes and fall in love with the wrong person, risking their youth and happiness.
However, unlike women in the past, modern women have already achieved equality with men and have the ability to control their own destiny.
Especially as women reach middle age, they realize that the key to happiness in the later years lies not in marriage but in these 3 “trump cards” they hold.
A Healthy Body
Have you noticed that there are more and more people around you focusing on fitness and wellness? Gyms have become a sanctuary for middle-aged women.
In the first half of their lives, women bear and raise children, expending physical and emotional energy. Studies show that middle-aged women are prone to mental distress, anxiety, and even nervous breakdowns.
Middle-aged women face immense pressure from both family and work, along with the fatigue of aging. It is crucial for them to take care of their bodies promptly.
Caring for one’s body is a sign of self-awareness. Only with good health can women enjoy happiness in the later years. It’s hard to do anything if you are constantly unwell.
Health is the foundation of everything. Having a good body is more important than having wealth.
The late Fudan University teacher Yu Juan once wrote that staying up late for work, chatting aimlessly, partying all night, and living a reckless life is like slow suicide.
It’s only at the end of life that one realizes without health, everything else is meaningless. Many people lament others’ experiences while repeating the same lifestyle, unaware of the crisis they are facing.
Middle-aged women should not devote all their energy to family and career but also consider themselves more and show self-love.
Remember, if you don’t love yourself and take care of your body, illness may come knocking on your door.
Learn to maintain a cheerful attitude, think positively, let go of worries, and learn to motivate yourself. Establish a fitness plan to lay a good foundation for your later years.
Independence
Many people say, “Why should women be independent when they can rely on their husbands?”
But don’t take this statement too seriously. It’s not that men are not worth relying on. When your husband lovingly says, “I’ll take care of you,” he probably means it.
However, life is not ideal, and reality is not that simple. Relying entirely on a man may make you dependent on him, with no sense of your own value.
If he strays, what will you do then?
Everyone needs to have some hope. While everyone may rely on others at some point, feeling life’s extreme emptiness and facing sudden changes in marriage can be daunting.
In “All is Well,” Luo Zijun believed too much in the security marriage brought, leaving her unprepared when Chen Junsheng asked for a divorce.
At nearly 40, she had to start over. While the drama conveniently had many helping hands for the protagonist, real life may not be so forgiving.
It’s tough for a middle-aged woman with no skills, no work experience, and possibly children to establish herself in society. Relying on marriage is not as reliable as relying on oneself. Though Luo Zijun’s comeback may seem idealized, her spirit is worth emulating by all women. A life earned through hard work is the most dependable.
No more worrying about gains and losses. Even if you can only care for yourself, it’s better than the awkwardness and helplessness of asking others for help.
Optimistic Attitude
Life is what you make of it. Your attitude towards life determines your experiences.
Some women are naturally innocent, seeing everything in a positive light. While this preserves their nature, they may struggle with life’s challenges.
Some women are naturally critical, nitpicking over trivial matters. This behavior can create conflicts in marriage and disrupt family harmony, making it hard to get along with others.
Some women rely entirely on men, pushing all their pressures onto them. But everyone has their limits. When the pressure becomes too much, who will they turn to?
Smart women know to maintain a positive attitude, face challenges within their capabilities alone, and share marital difficulties with their partners.
By staying positive, they can easily handle life’s ups and downs and create a comfortable environment for themselves.
The attitude you hold towards the world determines how the world treats you.
Many women lose themselves after marriage, sacrificing their own lives, dreams, and careers for their families and children.
Considering your husband the center of your world, revolving around your children, and seeing them as your entire life is dangerous for women. Marriage doesn’t guarantee eternal love; over time, when you have nothing to offer your partner, the love may fade.
Even if you maintain this status quo, you may find a lack of common ground with your partner.
Some say that raising successful children is a woman’s greatest achievement. However, children grow up and create their own lives. When that time comes, you may be left with infinite emptiness.
Middle-aged women must learn to prioritize themselves. Time takes away not only their youth and beauty but also gives back abundant rewards.
Understand that you hold these three trump cards and strive to become the best version of yourself. Only then can the later years of your life be truly fulfilling.
